Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 And by "The Daytime," I mean OUTSIDE of the bar or the club? Because seriously, it's ridiculous how difficult it is to meet women in the nightlife-scene. Seriously, I like bars and clubs and lounges, but it's totally absurd how prissy, snotty, stuck-up, rude, dismissive or just plain hostile some girls can be there. Like, I understand what a lot of you guys are saying when you say they put up the front to fend off drunk or aggressive guys, but it's totally unfair for them to treat every single guy the same way. It's really ridiculous. But if I can't change that, maybe I can change the situation regarding WHEN & WHERE they put up the front. A lot of you guys said women put up a prickly attitude in the bar and club to deter overly-aggressive guys. Well, what about OUTSIDE of the bar and club? Are women more open to having guys approach and talk to them at the cafe, on the street or even int he supermarket?
pantherj Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 "Seriously, I like bars and clubs and lounges, but it's totally absurd how prissy, snotty, stuck-up, rude, dismissive or just plain hostile some girls can be there." If a girl is being rude to you, then you have missed, or ignored, important social ques and rules. Never approach a girl who hasn't given you a signal to come over. How do girls call a guy over? She will look you in the eye several times, with a friendly expression. 1 look means nothing. 3 or more, go talk to her. 1st look - He seems interested. Hmm what does he look like? 2nd look - He seems alright. 3rd look - OK c'mon down. 4th look - HELLO? "it's totally absurd how prissy, snotty, stuck-up, rude, dismissive or just plain hostile some girls can be there." You'll get their worst if you don't follow the rules. Who said the girl you're approaching is nice to friendly strangers in a bar/social gathering?
EasyHeart Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 The only women you'll meet in a bar or club is are skanka. Why waste your time? The only exception is happy hours in downtown business districts. You can sometimes meet women in suits who would normally not ever go to a bar, but will grab a drink with her co-workers. If you want to meet women, go to where the women are. The mall, grocery stores, clothing stores, etc. I met one of my girlfriends at the Gap and we dated for almost three years. Coffee shops are great. I go to a coffee shop across the street all the time. It's mostly guys that work there, and I mentioned that I'm single again, and now when I go in they'll say, "Hey, you might want to drink your coffee here. And go upstairs and look for a pink jacket." I met another LT girlfriend at a bakery that I went to every week. The trick is repeated contact. If you walk up to a woman and hit on her, she'll think you're a slimeball. If she sees you in the coffee shop all the time, you'll become "the cute guy at the coffee shop" and she'll start keeping an eye out for you. She might even approach you!
stillafool Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 The only women you'll meet in a bar or club is are skanka. Why waste your time? The only exception is happy hours in downtown business districts. You can sometimes meet women in suits who would normally not ever go to a bar, but will grab a drink with her co-workers. Why do you think women who wear suits can't be skanky also? Some of the skankiest women I know wear suits and never frequent bars.
stillafool Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 If a girl is being rude to you, then you have missed, or ignored, important social ques and rules. Never approach a girl who hasn't given you a signal to come over. How do girls call a guy over? She will look you in the eye several times, with a friendly expression. 1 look means nothing. 3 or more, go talk to her. 1st look - He seems interested. Hmm what does he look like? 2nd look - He seems alright. 3rd look - OK c'mon down. 4th look - HELLO? You'll get their worst if you don't follow the rules. Who said the girl you're approaching is nice to friendly strangers in a bar/social gathering? Guys, this is the absolute truth. If you don't follow the above you will more than likely be rejected. Don't approach a girl/woman unless she gives you the #3 (ok c'mon) sign. Some women go to bars just to hang out with their gfs and drink and laugh. They don't always want to include men in their group. That's why it's best to wait for a signal.
blind_otter Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 As a rule, most women over the age of 25 do not date men they meet at bars or clubs, generally speaking. I certainly don't. The men who garner my interest at this point make an effort to woo me over a longer period of time. And I usually meet them socially, through friends.
Author Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted April 25, 2010 Author Posted April 25, 2010 Guys, this is the absolute truth. If you don't follow the above you will more than likely be rejected. Don't approach a girl/woman unless she gives you the #3 (ok c'mon) sign. Some women go to bars just to hang out with their gfs and drink and laugh. They don't always want to include men in their group. That's why it's best to wait for a signal. Are you guys serious? Then what am I supposed to do? Just lean up against the wall in the mean time? Scan the room left to right for chicks looking my way? When you're in a dark club and there's loud music playing, the girls are huddled in their little groups and ratio of guys-to-girls is like 3-to-1 or 4-to-1, do you really think a girl is going to look at the same guy 3 times with a come-hither look? USE YOUR HEADS!
Green Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 whens the last time you were at the mall, or supermarket, bank, park ect. and you saw a pretty girl? I bet it happens all the time. Do you flirt with them? Do you ask them out? If you don't ask them out how will you ever know. Girls will reject you.... but you only need one to accept you... get out there and have fun try
stillafool Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Are you guys serious? Then what am I supposed to do? Just lean up against the wall in the mean time? Scan the room left to right for chicks looking my way? When you're in a dark club and there's loud music playing, the girls are huddled in their little groups and ratio of guys-to-girls is like 3-to-1 or 4-to-1, do you really think a girl is going to look at the same guy 3 times with a come-hither look? USE YOUR HEADS! Yes we do! If we are interested in a guy we will let him know. If he looks away that means he isn't interested. Again, most women who go to clubs in groups are not looking to pick up guys. They just want to have fun. As another poster said most women would rather meet a guy at a party or other social gathering. Women think that most of the guys who hang out at clubs are not to be trusted. Ha ha! pretty much what guys think of girls who hang out at clubs. BTW, if the club is so dark and noisy that a girl can't see you, how can you see her?
Author Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted April 26, 2010 Author Posted April 26, 2010 Yes we do! If we are interested in a guy we will let him know. If he looks away that means he isn't interested. Again, most women who go to clubs in groups are not looking to pick up guys. They just want to have fun. As another poster said most women would rather meet a guy at a party or other social gathering. Women think that most of the guys who hang out at clubs are not to be trusted. Ha ha! pretty much what guys think of girls who hang out at clubs. BTW, if the club is so dark and noisy that a girl can't see you, how can you see her? So what am I supposed to do? Just lean against the wall like the other 50 to 60 wall-flowers there and hope 1 girl picks me out of the pack?
SouthernSunshine Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 It's best to meet someone during the day where you share similar interests. Most guys come onto me no matter where I am though, and that's annoying. I make sure to avoid eye contact.. It's really creepy when the butcher is checking me out when I'm grocery shopping with my kid. The library, and park are decent places... Good luck!
Author Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted April 26, 2010 Author Posted April 26, 2010 It's best to meet someone during the day where you share similar interests. Most guys come onto me no matter where I am though, and that's annoying. I make sure to avoid eye contact.. It's really creepy when the butcher is checking me out when I'm grocery shopping with my kid. Do you wear THAT top at the grocery store?
stillafool Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 So what am I supposed to do? Just lean against the wall like the other 50 to 60 wall-flowers there and hope 1 girl picks me out of the pack? Do you have friends that have gfs? If so, have get togethers and try to meet their friends. If you see a girl you like (even at the club) just smile and see if she smiles back. Then do it again, if she is not trying to avoid eye contact with you she may be open to approach. You have to start using your senses.
Author Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted April 26, 2010 Author Posted April 26, 2010 Do you have friends that have gfs? Not really; my friends are "Rush fans" if you know what I mean.
Jersey Shortie Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 I love meeting men out and about. It's more authentic. And not enough men take the time to do this as much anymore with the internet and junk. I wish more men approached me in public to be hoenst but it's hard to do.
and.then.some Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 Be self-aware. The guy who stares.... I don't care if it's 9am or 9pm, he's still gonna creep me out. I'll still be totally on guard. If you're uncomfortable, you're going to make me uncomfortable as well. It doesn't matter where you are. It doesn't matter the time of day. I will be just as dismissive in the gas station as in the bar if you're sending the wrong vibe.
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