butterflysil Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 ok i understand that looks fade away eventually. my question is once you find somebody HOT, SEXY, FINE, do they become unattractive if the personality is not what you are into. i am talking more as in days not weeks, months or years.
ADF Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Unless you're unbelievably shallow, stupid, or insecure, a rotten personality will always undermine good looks. I appreciate beauty as much as the next guy, but I have to say looks are a bit overrated. The fact someone is HOT doesn't even mean they are fun to have sex with, frankly. They may or may not be. I think this business of having to be with somebody FINE has a lot to do with competition between young men. They'd rather be with the women their friends wish they had, rather than they one they really like.
BubbleFreak Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 It is a definite turn off if someone, who you were initially attracted to because of their looks, turns out to have the most boring personality ever. They don't become uglier aesthetically, but as a whole they become less attractive.
RobM Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Sometimes it doesn't takes days, it only take her opening her mouth and starting to talk and it's instant. Sometimes it only takes a couple of minutes of talking. Sometimes it only takes a single question like "what are you passionate about in life", "huh, I love to shop"........
Author butterflysil Posted April 25, 2010 Author Posted April 25, 2010 a bit surprised:bunny: so if jennifer lopez, eva mendez, angelina jolie pop out with a dumb comment they are no lonnger so attractive?
RobM Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Depends how dumb the comment is, lol. They're still attractive from a looks sense, but I could never be happy being with someone I found boring or dumb or mean or arrogant. I've know some beautiful women that used their looks to treat everyone like crap and I've know some beautiful women that were the nicest, sweetest people I had ever met. I think the phrase I've heard the most is that for every beautiful woman there a guy that's tired of banging her.
ADF Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 a bit surprised:bunny: so if jennifer lopez, eva mendez, angelina jolie pop out with a dumb comment they are no lonnger so attractive? A dumb comment wouldn't spoil their attractiveness all by itself. We all make dumb comments sometimes. But if they exhibited serious character flaws--i.e. cruelty, arrogance, passive-aggressive tendencies--those would definately spoils their attractiveness. It wouldn't make them less attractive in a literal sense, but their attractiveness would suddenly seem much less appealing.
Lauriebell82 Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 The good looks would get old pretty quickly if they had a lousy personality. If you wanted to just be in a FWB type of situation with no springs then it may be okay, but relationship wise I think you need to be attracted to the person physically AND emotionally. I would think that if the person had a horrible personality then the connection would eventually go and the physical attraction wouldn't be able to compensate for it. I know this guy at work and he is really really hot. Like male model hot. But honestly, he is the biggest ass in the whole world. I only work with him one day a week but he is such an arrogant guy and I feel like he is always coming on to me with his comments. He thinks he is God's gift to women or something. If I was single I would NEVER go out with him at all, even though he is totally gorgeous. I would never be able to stand spending any time with him.
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