Royce Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 My gf has lied to me. There was times when she was on her 'period' and she took picture of herself in bra and sent to a guy on internet asking if she is overweight. I was extremely furious but she told her mom and she told me not to worry, everything will be taken care of. Today I asked my gf if she knew her friends boyfriends name. I was testing her but she said nope, but its funny I found her blog which she wrote about herself and it said his name and what he does unfortuantely it stated "A foot player (his name)" She lied to me and said no. When I said it, she said oh well yeah. I got mad and said I have to go which I did. Later she called and said she was sorry and will never lie again. I asked okay so do you know more about him and she said not at all, and recently she posted he is in track. I got mad once again and told her to shut up and go sleep ill see her tommorow. I do not know how to handle this situation. I love her, but how can I control this situation and make her stop lying and being afraid of me. Without confidence and trust in my relationship, ill be glad by the time its over.
ADF Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 How do you handle this situation? You chill the heck out! You are getting all bent out of shape over trivial issues. I promise you, if you keep harrassing your GF over this piddling nonesense, she will get fed up and dump you. She's not doing anything wrong. You are coming across as hopelessly weak, controlling and insecure. Keep it up, and you'll lose her.
Ronni_W Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Her mom has nothing to do with it. You're choosing a bad relationship for yourself. There isn't any trust, or honesty, or respect. What are you waiting for? Stop this silly, immature, soul-sucking roller coaster ride that you're on, and get off. What are you waiting for?
Author Royce Posted April 25, 2010 Author Posted April 25, 2010 How do you handle this situation? You chill the heck out! You are getting all bent out of shape over trivial issues. I promise you, if you keep harrassing your GF over this piddling nonesense, she will get fed up and dump you. She's not doing anything wrong. You are coming across as hopelessly weak, controlling and insecure. Keep it up, and you'll lose her. So your telling me, taking picture of yourself in your bra, when you know you have a guy who freaking loves you, you take a freaking picture and send it to a guy on the internet is trivial?
ADF Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 So your telling me, taking picture of yourself in your bra, when you know you have a guy who freaking loves you, you take a freaking picture and send it to a guy on the internet is trivial? It isn't appropriate, no. But it isn't the end of the world, either. She used some poor judgment when she did that. But your reaction is way over the top. In the grand scheme of things, it is pretty trivial.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Just what we need, some guy who wants to control his girlfriend...
D-Lish Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Am I the only one that thinks his gf is totally in the wrong sending half naked pics of herself to another guy?? Jaysus. I'd break up with someone over that kind of behaviour.
Woggle Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Am I the only one that thinks his gf is totally in the wrong sending half naked pics of herself to another guy?? Jaysus. I'd break up with someone over that kind of behaviour. No you are not the only one and I find it weird that the men in this thread are defending it while you clearly see it as crossing the line.
D-Lish Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 No you are not the only one and I find it weird that the men in this thread are defending it while you clearly see it as crossing the line. Yeah I do, I see it as leaping over the line actually. I'd dump the girl immediately.
butterflysil Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 ok first off it is wrong. second her mom really has nothing to do with it. i know my mom would lie, defend and so much more for me so what do you expect? how long have you been dating?
SpanksTheMonkey Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Most mothers will defend their kids to the death even if their blatantly wrong/hurtful to others you will never change that fact its sad but true the girl sounds flaky my advice move on!
ADF Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Am I the only one that thinks his gf is totally in the wrong sending half naked pics of herself to another guy?? Jaysus. I'd break up with someone over that kind of behaviour. She was totally in the wrong. If this guy had chosen to dump her for that, I'd fully support him. But the fact is he DIDN'T. He chose not to dump her over it. When you forgive someone a transgression, you have an obligation to let it go at some point. You can't keep it in your back pocket so you can throw it in their face whenever you get angry. That is kind of what the OP is doing. He is spying on her, "testing" her, trying endlessly to trip her up and catch her in another lie. Believe me, if he keeps doing that, she'll dump him, sooner rather than later.
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 She sounds like a habitual liar to me. As for the picture she sent - let's just put it this way. I get the feeling that it isn't the first time she did it so much as the first time you caught her. I 'forgave' someone who did something similar. I wish I hadn't. I would have saved a lot of time and heartbreak fretting over someone who lied, sent semi-nude pics to a girl, and eventually cheated on me. What to do? Leave now. It will never get any better, she'll just get better at lying and hiding things.
Lauriebell82 Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 She was totally in the wrong. If this guy had chosen to dump her for that, I'd fully support him. But the fact is he DIDN'T. He chose not to dump her over it. When you forgive someone a transgression, you have an obligation to let it go at some point. You can't keep it in your back pocket so you can throw it in their face whenever you get angry. That is kind of what the OP is doing. He is spying on her, "testing" her, trying endlessly to trip her up and catch her in another lie. Believe me, if he keeps doing that, she'll dump him, sooner rather than later. Yeah, I agree with this. OP, your girlfriend probably figures that you forgave her and are letting it go because you love her. But you aren't letting it go, you are constantly trying to catch her in another lie. What exactly are you looking for her to do? You obviously don't trust her, so if that's the case then you need to break up with her.
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