Citizen Erased Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Size 6 Australian or US? You look great either way... I have seen a larger pic in Pyro's album I also don't expect a guy to have perfect body or even close to. I am fine as long as he is not obese or ultra skinny. 6 US. I convert a lot for you guys. Thanks. The extremes are always understandable.
Ariadne Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Well I guess they aren't going to ever get any because nobody is perfect, ever ever never. I guess they don't. At least that's what they claim here when their partners get a bit fat. I think that most can....they just want to kick you out of bed afterwards
stillafool Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 LTR women had to be 5' 2" or taller, long not skinny legs, hair long below her shoulders, breasts C, weight 110 -125, also had to have an hour glass figure, and a face I can kiss good morning / good night and many times in between for the rest of my life. How can a woman of 5'2 have long legs?
Kamille Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Funny... I once lost a lot of weight for medical reasons - and yes, guys hit on me a lot more (I also dressed in tighter clothes). In the last three years though, I've put on 15-20 pounds (over my preferred weight, not my skinny weight). And men hit on me like never before. I can understand why. The extra 15-20 make me more curvaceous (I don't have a belly, just bigger thighs and boobs). I still want to lose the weight though!
shadowplay Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Yep. I'm about 5'5"-5'6" and I notice guys hit on me the most when I'm around 113-115 lbs. Any weight goes mostly to my midsection, so if anything it makes me look less curvy than when I'm thinner.
EasyHeart Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 For me, physical attraction is pretty much instantaneous and binary. So basically, my world is divided into two groups of women: Women I would sleep with and women I wouldn't sleep with. Pretty much nothing is going to move you from one group into the other. I don't have any sort of physical requirement like hair color, breast size, figure, etc., and I think those kinds of "requirements" are pretty ridiculous. Would you pass up a pretty/smart/nice girl just because she's a B-cup? Or a brunette? Really? Because then you're a dumbass. One thing I do look for is a woman who is smaller than me. I live in a part of the country that has a lot of Amazons and a lot of corn-fed farmgirls. I'm 5'10" and a very fit 180 lbs, and around here it's pretty hard to find women under 5'10" or (God forbid!) under 5'8". But that's a mutual thing, because I'd say half the women I meet reject me out of hand because I am "too short". I sometimes joke that I have three requirements: single, female and under 250 lbs. And I'd settle for two out of three. . . . I will always pick a pretty face over a good body. Personality-wise I look for two things: (1) the ability to banter, because I NEED to have clever conversation (Lorelei Gilmore, where are you?) and (2) kindness/empathy, because bitches may be fun for a few dates and some rough sex, but they are not women I want to spend much time with. I've read that the type of woman (or man) that you are attracted to is "imprinted" into your brain early in childhood, and is related to an opposite-gender caregiver that you had early in life. That's why so many people (for good or bad!) are instinctively attracted to people who look and act like their mother/father. My mom was a talkative, sarcastic blonde with authority issues, and for me that pretty much describes my perfect woman, so there might be something to that.
RobM Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 I will always pick a pretty face over a good body. Personality-wise I look for two things: (1) the ability to banter, because I NEED to have clever conversation (Lorelei Gilmore, where are you?) and (2) kindness/empathy, because bitches may be fun for a few dates and some rough sex, but they are not women I want to spend much time with. Funny reference, I've always thought I was more like Luke and if I was dating someone that talked like that non-stop at some point I'd just shake my head and say "do you ever stop talking......"?
EasyHeart Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Funny reference, I've always thought I was more like Luke and if I was dating someone that talked like that non-stop at some point I'd just shake my head and say "do you ever stop talking......"?I agree. In real life, I don't think Luke could tolerate Lorelei for 10 minutes. I, on the other hand, talk incessantly, and find myself addicted to women who talk even more than I do . . . .
SadandConfusedWA Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Oh yeah, forgot to add that there is such a thing as too skinny. I remember that in my early 20's I got addicted to dieting and lost heaps of weight - I had a borderline eating disorder (I was in fact diagnosed with anorexia at the time) but in retrospect I don't think I was anorexic. Anyway, I am 5'8"-5'9" and weighed 105lbs. I had no shape and no boobs. I was really bony everywhere and lots of my hair has fallen out and my skin was kind of grey. Looking at those pictures of myself now, I pretty much looked like someone in the final stages of cancer. And at that weight I got no men action whatsoever. I was invisible to men. Men approach me more now that I am borderline overweight than they did then. I look my best at around 140lbs-150lbs (tight), because I have a hourglass figure and lots of my weight goes into boobs, a$$ and hips and my waist looks even smaller in comparision. Also my face is slightly too long so I can look somewhat horsey at lower weights.
Fouts Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Cute face, nice hair and a great tush seals it for me from the physical side of things
SadandConfusedWA Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 I agree. In real life, I don't think Luke could tolerate Lorelei for 10 minutes. I, on the other hand, talk incessantly, and find myself addicted to women who talk even more than I do . . . . This worries me. It seems like all men want someone that talks non-stop. I have lost my ex to a woman like that because he just LOVED that she never stops talking. In fact, all men that I have ever been strongly attracted to, loved women who are EXTREMLY talkative. And I mean EXTREMLY. It doesn't matter if they themselves are talkative or shy, they want women who never shut up
shadowplay Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 This worries me. It seems like all men want someone that talks non-stop. I have lost my ex to a woman like that because he just LOVED that she never stops talking. In fact, all men that I have ever been strongly attracted to, loved women who are EXTREMLY talkative. And I mean EXTREMLY. It doesn't matter if they themselves are talkative or shy, they want women who never shut up Ha, there's some truth to this unfortunately. Men do not like shy women for the most part, even when they say that they do.
RobM Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 I don't know if I'd enjoy being with someone that talks nonstop, I suppose it depends what she's talking about. It's enjoyable listening to someone talk about something they are passionate about but if it's just mindless babble then it's a turn off. What's worse for me is someone that's not passionate about anything, when the conversations go like what do you like to do for fun? go clubbing or shopping where would go for a dream vacation? the beach They don't have to have the same interests as me but for god's sake, have something in life you love, that really turns you on.
EasyHeart Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Different strokes for different folks. We all have different things that we value. For me 90% of attraction is mental.
runner Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 This worries me. It seems like all men want someone that talks non-stop. I have lost my ex to a woman like that because he just LOVED that she never stops talking. In fact, all men that I have ever been strongly attracted to, loved women who are EXTREMLY talkative. And I mean EXTREMLY. It doesn't matter if they themselves are talkative or shy, they want women who never shut up not me. i can't stand women who constantly go on about everything and who have no listening skills what so ever. on the flip side to that: i also can't stand women who are dead in the head and can't keep up with the conversation - or probably just don't care to speak with me to begin with. good intellectual intercourse with a balanced give and take is a huge deal to me.
2.50 a gallon Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 May I point out that in most cases it is much easier for a woman to change her sexual appearance than a man. I am 5'6" and most women prefer a man who is approaching 6' I was a player and in my life time had many bed partners. Several of my bed partners did not like to be seen with me in public as they were much taller than me, especially if they were in heals. And there was no way that she would ever consider getting serious and possible getting married. As they put it, we looked too funny together. Also as they put it, they felt safer going out with a man who was taller than them, even though I could pretty much take care of myself. Some woman such as my ex fiance, with a little effort could have lost her weight and kept her hair longer. A woman can have her breasts enlarged, but a guy who is born with a pinkie for a penis can do nothing but try stretching his tongue
Avarage Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 For me the things that I notice in order are hair, face and then body shape. A woman has to have nice hair for me. Shiny and sleek is just something I like. An example of this has to do with one class I took awhile ago. This girl who I had never really noticed before came in with her hair well done and dressed up and I had a difficult time focusing on the test that day. I don't know why but for some reason the first thing I always notice is the type of hair a woman has. I can just tell based on her hair from the back whether or not she'd be someone I'd consider dateable.
Author LoveLace Posted April 25, 2010 Author Posted April 25, 2010 For the most part it seems like many of us know exactly what our prefrences are and what they are not. For others the requirements seem pretty basic. I know I have to have a man taller than me. If I'm in love I could compromise a guy that matches my height. I like bald, I like gray, blond or brunette hair on men. I do have my limits on skinny or overweight; but I'll go for an overweight guy way before one that is too thin.
RobM Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 This reminds me of when we were out shopping for a new house. My wife had a long list of stuff she wanted and didn't want in a house. Then we would walk into a house and she'd look around and say "I love this one, let's buy it" and it would be nothing like what was on her list. List of specifics are fine but for me most of the time it's just a snap gut judgement, something about her, who knows what, catches my attention.
kiss_andmakeup Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 I would love to say I date exclusively 6'+ hardbodies with 6-pack abs and perfect pecs...but it just isn't the case. For me, as long as the guy has an attractive face, isn't obese, and isn't wayyyy shorter than me (5'9), it all comes down to personality, intelligence, sexual chemistry, and their ability to make me laugh. I've dated hotties who bored me to tears. In fact, overall, the best looking guys I've been with have been the worst in bed, and the average-looking guys have been the best. My bf is 5'10, has a very handsome masculine face, kinda chubby round the middle (though nowhere near being obese), and is the smartest, funniest, awesomest (we'll pretend that's a word) guy I have ever met. So I find him mad sexy. As for mens' preferences, who knows, though I will say I attract far more men now at 5'9 and 115 lbs than I did when I was even skinnier. I have a 32c chest at my current weight which is perfect...if I lose weight they practically melt off! :/
StalledGirl Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 I don't have any "must haves" physically but I like tall men and hair. I'd prefer not to date a short man again and can't ever imagine finding a bald man attractive as dark , thick hair is lovely. I wouldn't want to date a skinny man either as i'd feel weird. I like intelligence and a good sense of humour personality wise.
D-Lish Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 I don't have any "must haves" physically but I like tall men and hair. I'd prefer not to date a short man again and can't ever imagine finding a bald man attractive as dark , thick hair is lovely. I wouldn't want to date a skinny man either as i'd feel weird. I like intelligence and a good sense of humour personality wise. I hear you, hair is my one shallow preference:o
kiss_andmakeup Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 I hear you, hair is my one shallow preference:o Good call! I probably couldn't be very attracted to a guy who was balding...I overlooked this...I'm a hairstylist so good hair is a must! ;]
D-Lish Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 Good call! I probably couldn't be very attracted to a guy who was balding...I overlooked this...I'm a hairstylist so good hair is a must! ;] My friends have all told me that at 40, I have to let the hair thing go... That I won't find a guy that isn't receding or doing the comb-over:lmao:. But I have never, ever found a shaved head attractive. I like hair.
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