MashedPotatoes Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 So I've been into this girl for quite a while now (about 6 months). We've known each other since childhood, but just recently reconnected last June. She came to a couple parties I threw (by herself) and we hung out here and there for the past couple months. I'm 80% sure there is interest on her part but some things she said/did these past couple months is the reason why I still have about 20% doubt, if that makes any sense. We were never close friends growing up, just old friends. I invited her to join me in a jog/hike through the mountains (4-5 mile loop) knowing that she loves outdoor activities. I've been training for a 10k as well, and having a partner to train with makes it a little easier. Anyways, she accepted my invite. This is going to be the first time where it's just the two us spending time together. I technically didn't ask her out on a "date", I merely asked if she wanted to join me in my training. Would do you people think? Is this a date? Is this a way of her showing me that she's interested? Either way, I'm glad that we're going to have this time together, alone, and get to know her a little better.
2sunny Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 no - it's not a date. if you want a date - ask her "out" on a "date." a date you pay for... make an effort for... and specifically ask for.
alphamale Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 no its not a date and yes you'll know if she's interested. right now she probably thinks you are a friend since you haven't made any moves in such a long time
Ronni_W Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 No, it's not a date, it is two people training (hiking/jogging) together. Does not matter how much she loves outdoor activities, you can't 'back door' your way into a "real" date. In this day and age, I don't necessarily agree that a guy has to pay for 100% of everything for it to qualify as a "date"...but I guess that's the accepted norm. What you might want to consider is let her know how much you appreciate it being just the two of you, and then asking her if she'd like to go out with you for dinner / a movie / whatever.
MichelleZB Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 She's come to your parties, you've hung out together for months, she's going running with just you, and you think she may be interested. I think this qualifies as enough mutual interest for someone to ask someone out here. Go for it!
Fouts Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 She's come to your parties, you've hung out together for months, she's going running with just you, and you think she may be interested. I think this qualifies as enough mutual interest for someone to ask someone out here. Go for it! I'd have to agree here. If she wasn't interested, she'd train by herself or with a girlfriend.
Author MashedPotatoes Posted April 26, 2010 Author Posted April 26, 2010 So here's a little update: We were supposed to go on our jog yesterday late afternoon. I sent her a text earlier in the day to confirm and didn't hear back from her until 3 hours later. Apparently she had just woken up from a nap and apologized. I brushed it off, thinking to myself, this is the last straw. However, she calls me about 20 minutes later and says she wants to make it up to me by treating me to dinner. We met up at a local sushi restaurant, had some laughs, flirting, good food, sake, all in all a fun time. I expected that we would part ways after dinner but she wanted to take a little walk around town. While we're walking she mentioned that she'd always wanted to walk my dog (I have an English Bulldog) so after buying her a cupcake we go back to my place (in separate cars) and we take my dog around the block for a little walk. We come back to my place and she starts perusing my book collection and we begin to discuss some books that she was interested in. I kind of got the sense that she was lingering and waiting for me to do "something" or maybe she really was going through my books. Since this wasn't an "official" date, I was a little hesitant. She ended up borrowing two books and I accompanied her back to the car, we say our goodbyes, hug...end of the night. So....we technically went on a date, just not official. She definitely knows that I'm interested in her so I don't think she would be playing with my emotions...the two of us, having dinner, walking around town, coming back to my place...on a saturday night nonetheless. There is just this one thing that I can't get out of my head...several months ago when we first started hanging out, after sending her a text inviting her out to an event, she responded with "thanks for the invite, can't make it out tonight. i consider you and your sister like My bro and sis...." Now, we all know what that means, but I gave her the benefit of the doubt and thought along the lines of maybe she thought I was being too forward, or she was too busy to commit to anything (she was studying for the lsat, applying to law school, and interning at a law firm) and wanted me to back off. I broke off all contact until recently we started hanging out again. So what should I think here folks? I'm curious to see what other people think. I'm going to officially ask her out soon...just need a little encouragement
Ronni_W Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 she responded with "thanks for the invite, can't make it out tonight. i consider you and your sister like My bro and sis...." It was several months ago, and she's starting to see you in a (much) different way. I was in a 10+ year relationship with someone who had been more like a 'bro' than anything else -- I used to refer to his mom as one of my "second moms". At some point, we realized that our feelings for each other were leaning towards romantic interest. In the end, was much more traumatic for his mom than for us Which is to say, don't place attention on something she said several months ago -- focus on properly interpreting her current signals! Which, borrowing your books is a positive one, IMO. Now...go ahead and ask her out, already!!!
MichelleZB Posted April 29, 2010 Posted April 29, 2010 So what should I think here folks? I'm curious to see what other people think. Dude, it doesn't matter what I think! You'll find out whether she likes you when you ask her out and she says yes or no. She's the most reliable source on her own feelings, and I encourage you to go directly to the source! Good luck.
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