xRJ85x Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 Maybe the ladies can clue me into as why you make then break first dates, especially after you were the one's who were showing more interest up until the day of the date? Today I was supposed to meet up with a girl I met on Match.com. She initiated interest in me, so we emailed each other a few times over the past week and I suggested we meet up, and she said yes. I set up a date and time, and we switched numbers. We'll today, 2 hours before we were supposed to meet up, she texts me saying "I'm sorry, I have to go to a family thing, please don't hate me! :(" I didn't know what to say because I know half will say "It could be legit!" and the other half would say "She's just playing you!" So I took my friend's halfway advice and just said "OK," not to show any emotion. This is the second time this has happened to me. What gives? Why show all the interest up until right before you're supposed to meet someone, then bail?
Lakeside_runner Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 Possible reasons: 1. You were her second choice and her first choice had to reschedule their date so it overalps with your prospective date... 2. She met up with some other people from Match.com and the experience was so horrific that she doesn't want to meet you expecting an equally bad experience... 3. Her excuse might be legit... 4. She lied in her profile (about her hight, weight etc.) and now she realized she'd be embarassed to show up... etc.
Els Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 It's really easy to see whether someone's excuse is legit or not - arrange a second date.
ReadyforLove Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 I'm guilty of doing this unfortunately. Usually, it's because I wasn't that interested to begin with. So when the day comes to finally meet up, I don't even want to waste the time, effort or an outfit on someone I'm not really feeling.
Author xRJ85x Posted April 24, 2010 Author Posted April 24, 2010 I'm guilty of doing this unfortunately. Usually, it's because I wasn't that interested to begin with. So when the day comes to finally meet up, I don't even want to waste the time, effort or an outfit on someone I'm not really feeling. So why do you waste the other person's time and set up the date to begin with? Especially if they put off something else they could have been doing for your time?
ReadyforLove Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 At the time that I agree to the date, I have good intentions on actually following through. However, as the date approaches, and if I'm not feeling the urge and excitement of a first date, I could possibly bail on him. People are fickle and flakey. It just means they aren't that interested and you should move on to someone who is excited to see you and get to know you.
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