NiceGui Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 So, I met the most wonderful guy about three weeks ago. I mean once we really started to get to know each other, the chemistry was CRAZY INTENSE and insane. I don't believe in not telling people how you feel and neither does he. So from the jump, I told him that I was seriously digging him. In love? FAAAAAAAAAAAR from it. But like really digging and liking him a whole whole whole lot? You betcha. And he told me that he felt the same way. We'd get up in the morning and he'd start texting or I'd start texting, but either way it'd be back and forth from like 7 am-1 am of texting. Long texts. Just flirty stuff, getting to know each other better really. We spent two weekends in a row getting to know each other, just he and I. I texted him after this past weekend together seeing where his head was--he said he likes me and is having a good time, but not looking to be in a relationship right now. I totally respect that because neither am I, I tell him. And I certainly am not. Slowly but surely, he began texting less or responding to my texts. If he does respond now, I get maybe a LOL or smiley face. Nothing like it was. I think he's still interested, though. I posted a status update on Facebook and he texted me regarding it asking if everything was okay using his little pet name for me. I clarified with him via Facebook later that I hope I didn't scare him off or freak him out by asking him how he felt about me and all that good stuff just to ease his mind. But it's been a few days since I've heard from him. Did I come on too strong? I may have. I want to tell him that I'm aware that I may have and want to just start over. But I do want to give him his space, too. Advice?
Lakeside_runner Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 If you'd been texting all day long for the last couple of days/weeks I'd say there is nothing left to text about + the whole texting thing may have become pretty boring to him (it would to me). Why don't you guys just slow down a little and cherish the moments that you spend together? I think it is natural to want to spend every minute with the person you feel affectionate about but why don't you learn to enjoy the anticipation of the contact/dates? As a relationship develops this ultimately and sadly will get lost so enjoy it while it lasts! If he thinks you came off too strong then it's a lost cause and telling him that you want to start over won't change anything. Just relax, take a step back and asses your actions.
Bartender Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 The best and worst part about new relationships...........you're both really into each other and think about each other 24/7 but in reality texting 50x a day is just not a practical way of living. You still have lives to lead and responsibilities to take care of and devoting this much energy takes its toll on other aspects of your lives. Now you're at the akward stage of the new relationship where backing off is the right way to go (even though you might not like it) So give him some space, let him take the next intiative and within a few days when he comes calling (we always do:p when there's doubt and we're really into somebody) you guys can reasess a practical way of continuing the relationship. Now if he doesn't call (probably because he was overwhelmed with everything) just let him go and use this as a lesson when you meet the next guy you're crazy about.
Author NiceGui Posted April 24, 2010 Author Posted April 24, 2010 I suppose the both of you are right. They do say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, so I suppose I'm gonna have to test that theory. I tell you though, in order to avoid calling or texting, I had to delete his number from my phone! Don't get me wrong, I still have it saved on the notepad in my phone, but it's not in my phone book as of right now. Hopefully, he reaches out sooner or later.
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