Lucy24 Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 (edited) My partner split from me 1 month ago maybe a little longer im not sure as I have moved on and picked up and got on with things. During that time I went full NC making it clear I want nothing to do with my partner no friendship nothing after my partner kept just acidently bumping into me and sending random emails once in a blue moon. My partner has now set up a fake facebook acount and added two of my friends who my partner dose not know I even asked my friends if they knew this fake face book account and they said no. My partner did try and add me but I blocked the facebook yet on the wall it said ( what gose around comes around and you aint got away with it ) My partner left me I did not leave them as my partner wanted to see other people which was fine by me. But why all this unwanted atention? All I want is to have a peacfull life and my partner to be happy in what ever they choose to do. Edited April 24, 2010 by Lucy24
EthanH Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 to me it sounds like it was about control for him... he was the one who left the relationship, and when he saw you were doing fine, he couldn't take it. His wall post scares me. Am i right in thinking he was controlling in the relationship?
Author Lucy24 Posted April 24, 2010 Author Posted April 24, 2010 It was subtle and I did not pick up on it untill the split and I had time to think clearly about it. Everything was on my partners terms when where how and the rest I was never forced to do anything but I would be made to feel guilty about small things I did not do like I was a bad bad woman. once when I wanted to go home my partner would not let me out the room and griped me in a cuddle beggin me not to go I even tried to sneak out once when my partner was a sleep and they did the same thing so I stayed the nite. My ex partner says that they want nothing to do with me but still finds ways to try and see what I am up to which I do not need. So yes.
EthanH Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 yeah, sounds like he liked controlling you. At least now you have some kind of perspective on some things, now that you have broken up. Um, so, i'm guessing you don't want to be with him anymore at all?
Author Lucy24 Posted April 26, 2010 Author Posted April 26, 2010 No I do not want my ex back at all or in my life I start to make good progress and then all of a sudden my ex will pop up out of the blue trying to get some contact asking if I am okay with a kiss and a smile so now my email has changed. I know that I will bump into my ex at some point but it is something I really do not need and this makes it look like I am not over my ex. I am it is just so annoying trying to make someone understand I don't want them around in my life hence the ignoring and the avoiding and no contact I just want the point to sink in.
Ilovecake Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 (edited) Lucy I too was stalked by my ex. Mind you this is a 33 year old man who really needs to mature. Same thing fake facebook accounts and adding all my friends. He's even getting married to the girl he left me for yet he still tries to get under my skin. He even involved strangers in torturing me. We used to post on a message board where we met. He had total strangers publicly post private messages I sent to him during the breakup. He even sent messages to people telling them to be mean to me on said message board, they were nice enough to forward those messages to me to let me know what was going on. I stopped posting there. I did all the internet blocking possible, I ignored him and I erased all messages he sent me without reading them. All has been quiet for a few weeks. Hopefully he's gotten bored with his games. Even though now I hear his fiance is talking crap about me to my and my exe's mutual friends, even though I never met her nor spoken to her, ever. I would say just stay strong and keep ignoring all his/her stupid attempts to get to you. Your ex is obviously unhappy that you're not pining for him/her. Edited April 26, 2010 by Ilovecake
Author Lucy24 Posted April 27, 2010 Author Posted April 27, 2010 Thnk you i love cake ( and i do love cake fudge cake ) now im hungry! Every thing you have said makes sense to me it is slightly the same scenario my ex got in touch with my ex and had a wonderful chat. My partner also spoke about me to there ex to try and make them jealous when really they was both being vindictive about me as I found out through gut instinct. As for why I do not know and don't need to, I think it is to do with the parnoid thoughts my ex had about me and my ex may be trying to rub it in my face that they are doing extreamly well and dating other people like it would hurt me some how even though I do want my ex to happy despite the fact I was treated badly my ex knows this and maybe takes it as a sign of weakness or still loving. It is gettin to the point where I am keeping a diary and keep log of all the things my ex is doing and send it to the police if it dose not stop. My friends know what my ex is up to and are keeping a eye out and my work now knows as well as my family. Thank you once again Lucy x
Ilovecake Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 It is gettin to the point where I am keeping a diary and keep log of all the things my ex is doing and send it to the police if it dose not stop. That's a very prudent thing to do. A lot of people suggested I do the same. Also keeping people aware of what he is doing is a good safety measure. I don't think my ex would ever get violent with me but then he's done a lot of stuff I never imagined he was capable of. Better safe than sorry. It's almost worst when they try to get to you by doing all this little petty stuff because it makes you wonder if you're being paranoid and it's hard to explain to people what is happening. If these stalkers were physical in their threats more people would believe us but seriously who cares about fake facebook accounts and gossip. So yeah keep an open eye and document everything. I have screen shots of every creepy message he sent since we broke up. Good luck and be safe.
Author Lucy24 Posted April 28, 2010 Author Posted April 28, 2010 (edited) Start of the split Started off with phone calls to my home phone and mobile these no longer happen as I changed my number we do not share the same friends so my ex has no way to recive the number. Sending me emails so I change my email askin me how i am and how ill they are and how life is horible for them dont miss me dont want anything but how are you what you up to where you been seeing anyone yet (got married)? 1 month into split still I resume nc Long messeges on msn messenger which is now been blocked and deleted as flipantly I deleated and forgot to block so when my ex did so pop up I blocked instantly Textin my sisters phone to get her to pass on messges to me so my sister changed her chip. 2 month still I resume nc Randomly pulling up in the car and rolling down the window wating for me to come over in there p'js! even the bar staff noticed that my ex pulls up and when I m not there instead of doing anything speeds off. my ex dose not even go into but knows that is where my friends drink. the park where I walk my dog and once my work place. Setting up a fake fb account and adding me my two close friends and one person I only say hello to who works at the bar I drink my friends did not who this person was neither did I and i don't add anyone I do not know this is the order so far in short hand what my ex is up to. Edited April 28, 2010 by Lucy24
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