TooMuchPride Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 Hmmmm...Its like a switch flipped , kind of what i was afraid of, i was doing good but today is just a bad day , today makes it 2months since we broke up and would have mad it 9 month if we were still together , the date u get together and the day u break up always brings back memories but it hits doubly as hard when its the same day , i kept nc for 3 weeks and i have just been messin it up since then , but i havent spoken to my ex for a little over a week , i still love him and last week although we decided to be friends he told me he still loved me and blahh , i could tell he wasnt serious and i dont need to be led on and my emotions played with if he is trying to make me a back up , so i decide to go back to nc , if he really still loved me hed prove it , or even attempted to contact , and he hanst and ive been ok with that , i didnt cry at all up until today , today jus makes me sick , i just think about how he has moved on and is gonna find someone better and never have to look back , while im stick thinking about him ALL day, it almost feels like i will never be able to do better than him...and i am normally a person with pride and this breakup has stripped me of it , i sit and think about how happy he is , i get the urge to text him , but i kno if he wanted it he would contact me ,i feel like i should be over this by now , its been two months , I ENDED IT , and He is over it , so why the hell do i feel like i cant breathe.
GrayClouds Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 Hmmmm...Its like a switch flipped , kind of what i was afraid of, i was doing good but today is just a bad day , today makes it 2months since we broke up and would have mad it 9 month if we were still together , the date u get together and the day u break up always brings back memories but it hits doubly as hard when its the same day , i kept nc for 3 weeks and i have just been messin it up since then , but i havent spoken to my ex for a little over a week , i still love him and last week although we decided to be friends he told me he still loved me and blahh , i could tell he wasnt serious and i dont need to be led on and my emotions played with if he is trying to make me a back up , so i decide to go back to nc , if he really still loved me hed prove it , or even attempted to contact , and he hanst and ive been ok with that , i didnt cry at all up until today , today jus makes me sick , i just think about how he has moved on and is gonna find someone better and never have to look back , while im stick thinking about him ALL day, it almost feels like i will never be able to do better than him...and i am normally a person with pride and this breakup has stripped me of it , i sit and think about how happy he is , i get the urge to text him , but i kno if he wanted it he would contact me ,i feel like i should be over this by now , its been two months , I ENDED IT , and He is over it , so why the hell do i feel like i cant breathe. If you really want to move on here is 3 ways to do so: 1. Go NC with serious intent and stop playing games. 2. Stop thinking of things that make you sad like anniversary dates, him and his future, and feeling wounded. Here is a secrete of that very few people know about healing; Think of sad things makes you feel sad. So stop. 3 Go out today and buy: The Journey from Abandonment to Healing by Susan Anderson. Read it and do the exercises If you do these three things I guarantee you will be feeling and breathing much better in less then a month.
mickleb Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 TMP- Good choice of name.. YOU ended it, yet, you expect HIM to prove his love for you?
Author TooMuchPride Posted April 24, 2010 Author Posted April 24, 2010 TMP- Good choice of name.. YOU ended it, yet, you expect HIM to prove his love for you? i ended it because of how he was treating me & he started trying to fix it until he met a girl , and i also asked him to fix it and he gave me the run around , so uhh kinda?
broke_heart22 Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 ok stop saying you cant move on you can and the reason you still ffeel like you cant breath is because you keep going back in time... i mean if you wanted to be strong and move on then you would done it by now... give it time you can make it... you have to realize that its his lost ok... you as an female you got to stay storng stand your grounds cause as long as you keep going back and thinking of him and crying it shows him that he as power over you... so come on you can win this i beleive in you... but you got to beleive in yourself
Author TooMuchPride Posted April 25, 2010 Author Posted April 25, 2010 ok stop saying you cant move on you can and the reason you still ffeel like you cant breath is because you keep going back in time... i mean if you wanted to be strong and move on then you would done it by now... give it time you can make it... you have to realize that its his lost ok... you as an female you got to stay storng stand your grounds cause as long as you keep going back and thinking of him and crying it shows him that he as power over you... so come on you can win this i beleive in you... but you got to beleive in yourself thankyou
mickleb Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Reading your backposts, TMP, it's obvious you are not mature enough to be in a successful relationship. Next time, try not to break up with someone as a means of communication but try to speak to your partner, instead. It will work better, if you both care about each other. If it's obvious that he doesn't care as much as you do, why would you want to be with him? I get the impression you're about 15. You need to figure out why you have such difficulty talking directly to guys, before you try again. Stop playing games with this one. It's too late for you two to reconnect. You've messed with his trust too much, now. (Unless you want your lives to be filled with this kind of drama. Maybe you do?) Good luck. x
Author TooMuchPride Posted April 25, 2010 Author Posted April 25, 2010 Reading your backposts, TMP, it's obvious you are not mature enough to be in a successful relationship. Next time, try not to break up with someone as a means of communication but try to speak to your partner, instead. It will work better, if you both care about each other. If it's obvious that he doesn't care as much as you do, why would you want to be with him? I get the impression you're about 15. You need to figure out why you have such difficulty talking directly to guys, before you try again. Stop playing games with this one. It's too late for you two to reconnect. You've messed with his trust too much, now. (Unless you want your lives to be filled with this kind of drama. Maybe you do?) Good luck. x lmao actually im 18 , and if he cheated i dont feel i broke trust , but ur right so thankyou.
mickleb Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Just on the cheating thing, TMP, was that when you were both together as I can't recall you mentioning that before? Apologies if I'm wrong, though. x
Author TooMuchPride Posted April 25, 2010 Author Posted April 25, 2010 well lots of flirtin i considered cheating but he didnt , and i was told ALOT he did , but nothing was ever "proved" or admitted too..but the fact or the belief that he did is what broke my trust and caused me to use breaking up as communication...but as you said , i shouldnt have done that and i guess thats my immaturity, i didnt want to get hurt and i still did but i think i would have end up hurt alot worse if i didnt.
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