Author SadandConfusedWA Posted April 25, 2010 Author Posted April 25, 2010 JustJoe, no not at all. Those guys know nothing about my past, it's typically a first time meeting. But, I have never been into swingers or even that sexually adventerous. I am 31 and have only had 3 sexual partners. I have huge boobs though, and they seem to have grown lately and are out of proportion with the rest of my body. Maybe that's it?? TM, the only thing those guys have in common is that they are VERY good looking. Like the type that has perfect face and body and is out of my league looks wise (maybe that's why they figure I would be honored to have sex with them?). Also, when talking to them, I obviously found them very attractive and have probably been behaving flirty (although I didn't touch them or talk about sex at all)..I am really not sure...
Ariadne Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 only thing those guys have in common is that they are VERY good looking. Like the type that has perfect face and body and is out of my league looks wise (maybe that's why they figure I would be honored to have sex with them?). Yeah.. The only thing they care about (or the most) is beauty and those guys have the pick. If my brother is that picky, imagine those guys.
Author SadandConfusedWA Posted April 25, 2010 Author Posted April 25, 2010 Yeah.. The only thing they care about (or the most) is beauty and those guys have the pick. If my brother is that picky, imagine those guys. Do you think my brother is good looking?
shadowofman Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 You might consider changing your own habits. Consider the fact that the man you are looking for is a rare, special, "good" man. Consider the fact the there are tons of more assertive women out there in competition for these "good" men. Consider that "good" men are less assertive than "pigs". The chances that an unattached "good" man approaching you is slim under these conditions. You have to realize what you want and seek it out. Otherwise your just being lazy because you feel entitled. Your strategy will eventually net you a good man but your going to have to weed through a mountain of less desirable men.
Ariadne Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Do you think my brother is good looking? I think your brother is mean so I don't like him very much in any picture and physically he is not my type either not sure why.
Author SadandConfusedWA Posted April 25, 2010 Author Posted April 25, 2010 You might consider changing your own habits. Consider the fact that the man you are looking for is a rare, special, "good" man. Consider the fact the there are tons of more assertive women out there in competition for these "good" men. Consider that "good" men are less assertive than "pigs". The chances that an unattached "good" man approaching you is slim under these conditions. You have to realize what you want and seek it out. Otherwise your just being lazy because you feel entitled. Your strategy will eventually net you a good man but your going to have to weed through a mountain of less desirable men. This could be it. Pigs/players are used to approaching large number of women and they are very confident in doing so. So by probability alone, if you are chatted up by a guy in a public place who quickly escalates into making moves, he is most likely player/pig.
Author SadandConfusedWA Posted April 25, 2010 Author Posted April 25, 2010 I think your brother is mean so I don't like him very much in any picture and physically he is not my type either not sure why. Girls like him though...he is never single.
Ariadne Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Girls like him though...he is never single. Yeah, I believe that. Plus he is smart and successful and that is important for the girls.
Eve Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 OP, my simple suggestion would be to always have a number of daytime dates before going out with someone in the evening. Within the daytime dates I would suggest not dressing up and extend meetings from tea to other fun things. This worked for me and seems to be working for my daughters. If nothing else this routine filters out those with full ball sacks pretty quickly from those who can actually hold a conversation and have a life worth discussing. Number one rule in life; never let a man see you dressed up before you know him. Men are by and large visual creatures and not many can get past trying it on. Still, I know things are not written in stone as I know one lady who thought she was in for a one night stand and sort of never left the flat of the person who she met. They are married with four kids now.. But yeah, thats my suggestion. Create what you want in dating terms. How you go about this is a different matter as you seem to be dating from Clubs. However, I can imagine that some of the men approaching you may want more but could be reacting to the environment they are in..? Dunno.. if you like someone, maybe test the waters by suggesting that you both meet in daylight? Take care, Eve xx
Rittenhouse Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Very interesting suggestion, Eve. I am a guy who is in the same situation as the OP-- I can get sex, but am having trouble forming a deeper relationship. I am going to try this. Daylight only dates for a while, to help keep the sexual tension low.
Eve Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Very interesting suggestion, Eve. I am a guy who is in the same situation as the OP-- I can get sex, but am having trouble forming a deeper relationship. I am going to try this. Daylight only dates for a while, to help keep the sexual tension low. Good luck. Hope it works out for you too. If nothing else the cold light of day is pretty telling... and fun! I remember when I first caught sight of my Hubbys perfect footballer legs at around 'daytime date' number three.. :love: Then seeing him all smartened up at 'evening date' number four.. :love: I started doing this because men didnt take me as seriously as I wanted them to because of how I look, especially when I get dressed up. My daughters are far prettier than what I am and so this routine is mandatory for them.. Have fun above all else! Take care, Eve xx
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