ninadevil Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 My fiance who I have been engaged for a couple months seems to think it is okay to hide things. We have been together for 5 years. Through the 5 years we have broken up a couple times because he has said he couldn't take me not trusting him. First time he betrayed my trust, he went out with his ex gf before me and told me he went somewhere else. I told him not to betray my trust again and if he did I would leave. Since then, he has done this a few times. Another with a girl friend of his, deleting text on his phone to girls and lying and saying it was someone else. He has tried very hard in the last 2 years to earn back my trust and he did. He stopped all of his childish things and decided to be the man I want and needed. However, because I have had this confidence it seems he tries to get away with things still. Recently, I found Viagra in a bottle in our medicine cabinet. We live together. I was so afraid to confront him in fear of him telling me our engagement was off or he didn't want to be with me. But I finally decided to because I want to be open and honest in our relationship. He said he uses it sometimes for us. Okay, fine. However, a package came to our door and said his name on it. The people said he had to sign for it so they took it back to the post office. They said it was supplements. I confronted him and he said they must have the wrong address. Uh, I'm not stupid. So, I decided to look in his account history as we share the same program to do finances. And there it was. Another order for Viagra for $500! Why he needs it is beyond me, he is 30 years old. I asked if he had a problem and he said no, he had 2 left and was not going to buy any more. So basically he lied to me. When he went to "attempt" to go pick up the box, he said it was for a different person but addressed to him. I knew he was lying and told him no I know it was for him. He burst into anger and said he doesn't want to be engaged to someone who doesn't trust him. But thing is, I know he is lying yet so convincingly trying to blame me for not trusting him. I mean, come on! What should I do? Should I finally leave him and move on with my life or see what else he thinks he can hide? I am willing to share anything, because I don't lie!
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