JamesX123 Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 My ex and I broke up around 8 months ago and didn't see or speak to each other the whole time. We broke up due to quite a few issues and fault with both parties and ultimately since it became a long distance relationship it was all a bit much. A couple of weeks ago we started talking again and straight away the "spark" was there, the attraction between the two of us is stupid, we can not keep our hands off each other. Due to this we agreed to become FWB as a simple friendship is near impossible, however after spending more time together we realised that we still had feelings for each other (although i suspect mine are slightly stronger than hers) but neither of us are ready to date again. So now I feel like I'm in some kind of limbo since we agreed to take things slow and see how it goes (so now we're not even FWB but she still texts me everyday). However since we live in different towns at the moment due to college its slightly harder as we see each other less often. There's also another guy who she likes and they agreed to an open relationship as they live in different towns as well, and to maybe date in the summer. The thing is being FWB with her makes a lot of sense to me since having a proper relationship with this girl will take a lot of effort and knowing her it will be months and months before she makes up her mind whether or not to date me again (also we're both 19 so we have still so many experiences ahead of us). I really want to be FWB with her but how do I keep my feelings under control? She's one of my best friends and we know each other better than our parents know us so I don't want to lose her completely again but I know I can't have a simple platonic friendship with her. Any advice is much appreciated
make me believe Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 I really want to be FWB with her but how do I keep my feelings under control? You can't. Being FWB with somebody you have feelings for is a recipe for disaster! And this girl obviously doesn't have very strong feelings for you because she isn't willing to even TRY to make a relationship work. Not to mention that she has another guy on the side that she likes?! (How do you know for sure that they agreed to an "open relationship?") knowing her it will be months and months before she makes up her mind whether or not to date me again Why are you willing to settle for this? Why is everything up to her? I predict that she'll keep you (and this other guy she likes, and who knows how many other guys) as her FWB for as long as she can, but it won't go any further. She obviously isn't interested in having a relationship. Anyway, bottom line is you can't be FWB with somebody that you have feelings for. It will only get more complicated & confusing as time goes on, and you'll probably end up hurt in the end.
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