undisclosed Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 Hi, My ex texted me today after about two weeks of no contact, all he said was "Hey, how's school?" The following is from one of my posts about our breakup that detailed how our contact had been since the breakup... (So, the first week was HORRIBLE! I FAILED MISERABLY at not contacting him in the first couple days and sadly I didnt hold my composure very well and cried like twice. He proceeded to text me randomly that week and that was not making me feel better, so I decided to meet with him at the end of the week to tell him we should wait on friendship. He agreed, then two days later, I text him to change my mind because I missed him so much, at this point he said he wanted to be friends but we should give it some time to cool off because it was still very hard to talk and it was too soon to hang out because it would be hard for it to not go back to how we were before the breakup. So nxt week, I call him and he is kinda rude, and says he does want to see me, but its still hard and its akward talking to me and we can txt but no everyday. Again! I broke n texted him the nxt week with a comment about something he should get that I thought he would like, but he never texted back. That weekend was my birthday and he didnt wish me a happy birthday. I was devastated! It was clear that he is really going for no contact and i havent talked to him in like two weeks.) What does he want? I still miss him and unfortunately would still consider him if he apologized and told me how much he missed me too and realized he made a mistake, but I didn't text him back because I honestly don't know what to say or what his real motives are? He didn't care enough to say happy birthday, so is he doing this out of guilt because he feels bad or what??? Should I just ignore for now???
ussy Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 Ive been in this position before.... My ex once contacted me after NC and cried about how she missed me so much. Believe me, until they say "I love you i want you back" their words mean f**k all. Most of the time they just want to see your reaction, thats all. Just hold on and see how things go, do not reply! Remember if he really wants you back whats stopping him from saying it? If you reply it will just set you back on day 1 of NC, trust me.
EmperorR Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 Ive been in this position before.... My ex once contacted me after NC and cried about how she missed me so much. Believe me, until they say "I love you i want you back" their words mean f**k all. Most of the time they just want to see your reaction, thats all. Just hold on and see how things go, do not reply! Remember if he really wants you back whats stopping him from saying it? If you reply it will just set you back on day 1 of NC, trust me. basically they are just fishing to see if you still care about them etc. I've been there months go by I get a cheesy little txt just fishing for sh*t
ussy Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 basically they are just fishing to see if you still care about them etc. I've been there months go by I get a cheesy little txt just fishing for sh*t Exactly.... Pretty sad people imo!
runner Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 i'm currently in NC mode. big part of me is hurt to be where i am, yet feeling very empowered by not responding - at all. waiting for the clouds to clear, and i am certain they shall.
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