heffer1280 Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 I have been with the same girl for 4 years, she has cheated on me many times. I even moved her 1500 miles away and she started cheating here...Is it true, "once a cheater always a cheater"? One other problem is that she is 26 and i am 46. But i cant stop thinking about her...I go a few days and start to not think about her and she sends me some silly text about leaving something at my apartment, and of coarse i figure she is just sending it to keep a little grip on me...I dont even know if i want her back, all i keep thinking about is what she is doing? who is she with? People have told me that they saw her here and there with other guys, and ofcoarse she says they are only friends,,it has been over a month and she still tells me that she hasnt slept with anyone else,i know she is lieing. I have seen guys drop her off at her work at 8 am,,,please help me stop thinking about her,,i will tell you more about her,,just ask
CaliGuy Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 Read the links in my signature file. Better question for you: Why are you dating a much younger woman who has no remorse for her behavior?!
Author heffer1280 Posted April 24, 2010 Author Posted April 24, 2010 yes, i know she is much younger than me, but it just happened. Knew her for a few years and hadn't seen her and then i ran into her and we started hanging out.One thing led to another and it was a relationship. From about a month into the relationship, she wasn't honest with me and i should have ended it then but i didn't. And it just got worse. It was a 4 year off and on relationship, because of that i keep thinking she will be back,,,but,,,,do i really want her back. I know only i can answer that question. But i have been the door mat ass you put it
CaliGuy Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 yes, i know she is much younger than me, but it just happened. Knew her for a few years and hadn't seen her and then i ran into her and we started hanging out.One thing led to another and it was a relationship. From about a month into the relationship, she wasn't honest with me and i should have ended it then but i didn't. And it just got worse. It was a 4 year off and on relationship, because of that i keep thinking she will be back,,,but,,,,do i really want her back. I know only i can answer that question. But i have been the door mat ass you put it At some point in your life you have to accept that some people aren't right for you and that you deserve better. Until you do so, you will continue to pine over the wrong person while letting the RIGHT one pass you by. Your choice my friend.
butterflysil Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 i think age is a issue here but not so much as her actions. she could be 20 years older and still be incapable of realizing that she is being selfish. do you work together? if you do it will be much harder to get over her since you have to see her frequently. i do think she doesn't know what she wants and will string you along till she knows for you. you can wait but imo you should move on regardless of her actions and desires.
Author heffer1280 Posted April 24, 2010 Author Posted April 24, 2010 no i dont work with her, but she does, or did work at the casino across the street, im not sure if she even works there anymore, she did send me a text a few days ago asking me if i could drive her to the airport, i told her no. and ofcoarse it got my curiousity up so i asked where she was going and she said chicago , asked what for and she said the hell of it, i said have fun and she said "o i will. I know she just got back from buffalo, last week. so who knows if she is really going anywhere. I am doing my best not to contact her at all. all this writing is really helping me. She usually goes 3 or 4 days and sends me some useless text about needing something from the apartment,which there is nothing here anymore...all i can say is over the years she has showed me her true colors and i was too stupid to realize it
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