counterman Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 I have had a few friends ask me about what happened in my previous relationship and how I feel about my ex dating my former-friend. When I was in a relationship, I didn't use to talk much to my friends about it. Actually, I don't think I ever did and I was a bit distant. Now, after having gone through the break-up, I feel more at ease with talking about it. So, whenever, they ask I would talk. It's not like divulging my deepest thoughts and feelings but rather explaining situations and observations. Of course some of my friends love to hear this stuff because it gives them a chance to learn. Plus, I also give them dating advice when they ask. Tonight, I found myself drawn into the topic by one of my other friends. It was basically sharing my thoughts with her, how I felt about things. I did say a bit but it was very vague. I got caught up in it and think I might have said to much. I've said it all before. It wasn't a revelation but it was on my mind at the moment and I felt I had to say it. What I am trying to ask is, is it okay for me talk about this with my friends if they ask? My viewpoint is that I am uncomfortable with talking about this to them, then I would be uncomfortable talking about it in my future relationships. My ex was secretive and I kind of took that on when I was in a relationship with her. Now, I have chosen to be more open. It is just weird that I divulged quite a bit to one of my girl friends I have spoken to more recently. I mean, the stuff I said would be things I would post on LS. Is it normal to speak to someone about this stuff who I consider is on the same emotional level as me? I am trying to figure out why with this girl I have a tendency to talk about intimate matters, when asked. She talks about them too, when asked.
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