How do you get to know someone when you rarely get a chance to talk to them?

[Cristoforo]

There is this girl I have a huge crush on. The only problem is, she works at this place I go to 4 days out of the week and therefore, there are rarely moments that I can actually speak to her one on one because she is either working with clients or she is with other co-workers. We've spoke briefly a few times, but none of the conversations last more than 1 minute. We know each others names. I always smile at her when I see her and she always smiles back. We always say hello to each other and she always says my name. And I think I've seen her checking me out too. There have been a couple times when she was by herself and I had a chance to go talk to her, but I chickened out.

 

People say not to ask someone out until you get to know them better. I really want to ask this girl out, but I haven't really gotten a chance to get to know her. Should I just go up to her and ask her out or should I try having a few more conversations with her? I just don't know what to say to start a conversation. I'll see her again on Monday, would it be normal to go up to her and ask her how her weekend was? Or something like that? I just need topics because I'm clueless when it comes to approaching and starting a conversation with women I like.

[phineas]

I never understood how someone could crush on someone they don't even know.

 

I can see someone is attractive by looking at them, but I've never been nervous over a pretty girl I don't know.

 

It's when their pretty & I figure out if I like their personality that I get nervous.

 

LOL!

[Cristoforo]

I never understood how someone could crush on someone they don't even know.

 

If people didn't have crushes on people they didn't know well, then relationships would never exist. How do you think this stuff works? You meet someone and you don't know them well. If you are attracted to them want to get to know them better, that means you have a crush on them. Isn't this how the majority of dating relationships start? You don't know the person well at first, but you crush on them because you want to get to know them better. Therefore you talk to them and eventually ask them out in order to get to know them better.

 

As for the girl in question, I don't know her very well. But I have talked to her a few times and I have gotten a good sense of what her personality is and I like it. It's just a matter of me making a move but I'm terrified.

[Phantom9309]

I've always thought that crushes are reserved for someone you might have met through a friend or something. Therefore you kind of already know something about the person.

 

"Relationships exists, therefore Crushes exists." Your deduction is full of fallacies.

 

Crushes are a form of attraction. So it would be safer to say, Attraction exists, therefore Relationship exists. There is a lot more to build off of but I wanted to keep that short.

 

Anyways for your situation, just man up and talk to her more often. It might be advised that you converse with her co workers a little too. This will give you a head up if she asks her co workers what they think of you. Remember to stay out of the "friendzone"

 

This might be harsh but I think it should be said. You're a "regular" at her place of employment. She SHOULD know your name and she SHOULD say hello to you. Hell, she SHOULD make small talk with you if you're interacting with her. I'm almost sure that some where down the line, she was trained to do that with every customer.

[Cristoforo]

You may be right, however, I have observed her behavior with other people there. I've noticed she doesn't smile at others the way she smiles at me. When she sees others there or walks by others there, she doesn't always say hello like she does with me. One time I was leaving and didn't see her but heard a voice from behind me saying "See ya later [my name]!" Never saw her do that to anyone else. She's gone out of her way to say hello when I didn't even see her. I've caught her glance from across the room and have made eye contact with her numerous times. This is a gym we are talking about and one time I was on a treadmill and she was near me and asked me if I needed a water, she didn't ask a single other person who was on a treadmill this same question. I still interpret this as her being super friendly, but from what I've observed, she doesn't do this to every person who comes into her place of employment.

 

Sometimes I feel confident and think that she is into me. I tell myself I'm the most handsome guy in that place and she'd be stupid not to be interested in me. Other times I feel like she doesn't think twice of me. This back and forth between confidence and no confidence is why I don't approach more and try to make small talk with her. I guess like you said I just have to man-up.