blair08 Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 This is about a friend of mine, although I've seen this kind of thing before, and yes it could very well be that a man puts down his wifes mother, but I've mostly seen it the other way around. I guess my question is, what is it with some women (or men) but in this case its a woman, who constantly puts down or are saying mean things about their husbands mother? I would think that would get old after awhile to her husband. Do you think he would at some point hold some resentment? I'm not saying my friends husband is very close to his mother, and I'm sure they have had their differences over the years, but for the most part, I know her and she seems like a good person. I've seen them around one another and seem to get along. But my friend is always talking about her husband mother, in a very negative way. She is constantly putting her down and saying ugly things. She says her husband agrees with her, but I have to wonder how much of that is really true, and how much he is just going along with his wife to have peace because he lives with her. She complains to who ever will listen it seems. Even to their own daughter. I actually feel kind of bad for her husband and his mother. I tried telling her, maybe you should focus more on the positive things and not much on the negative things about his mother. That pretty much goes in one ear and out the other. The more I think about it, the more I have come to believe, my friend is just negative in general. Its always someone elses fault kind of thing for her. has anyone ever been through this where a spouse was always putting down another spouses mother/parent? if so what was the outcome?
Rorschach Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 After meeting my family for the first time my ex had something negative to say about pretty much everybody, I put up with it for about 5 minutes before I told her to basically shut up and that it wasn't her place to judge my family. I'm extremely close to everybody in my family and I don't like listening to any of them get put down. She brought it up a few more times before we broke up and it DEFINITELY contributed to the break up, that is something I just won't stand for, I don't know how you could be married to somebody like that.
soulm8 Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 It usually boils down to an insecure person who seems to have to put others down to feel better about themselves. I can't stand it. It's very, very unattractive and petty, imo.
PandorasBox Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 I would think her husband must harbor some type of resentment. Not sure how long they have been together, but if he hasn't by now, he very well may start too. Either he is afraid to tell hiss wife, how he really feels, or he may not even care.
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