SweetBliss Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 I broke up with my boyfriend of almost 2 years because I could not see where I was heading. At the beginning we had a great relationship and as a single mom I was more cautious than him. At the beginning he started talking about having a child together but never spoke about marriage or getting engaged. I felt a little cautious as if he could have wanted a kid with any girl since we barely knew each other. He is older than I am. I am 30 and he is 37. I decided to take some time on my own to think and broke up with him after 3 months together. During the separation, I realized how much I loved him and missed him and we came back together. He never forgave me for "abandoning" him and always reproched it to me afterwards. He has the tendency to play the victim with his friends and family and after we would have fights everyone would be completely antagonizing me. We moved in together after we came back together but I found him more and more distant. Instead of growing together I always felt like I could not count on him. He always said he wanted an independent woman... mot sure what independent meant to him but we disagreed on who will be with our child after the birth. He could not understand why I would stay home with our child when he had to work. I never felt reassured and cared for. I always felt I had to contribute in everything. Once he invited me to spend the week-end to see a concert in Las Vegas with an other couple friends. He took care of the hotel/tickets and I invited everyone to eat on our first night. The next day he used my credit card to pay for everyone's brunch without even asking me. I was at the restrooms. He says that I am the woman of his life but he is just acting weird, distant and no longer speaks about having kids or even the future. We broke up a few times and he always came back to me but always reproaching me that I abandon him. I just could not take it anymore and told him it was over. I just feel sad because I really loved him. My friends and family cannot stand him.. they tell me I was blind but I know for sure he loved me... I am puzzled... why did he want us to stay together if he did not see his future with me? What about if he calls me? Anyone met someone similar, manipulative, victimizer? Plse help!!!!
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