Jersey Shortie Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 Question for the guys. If your gf or wife provided you with sexy pictures of her, would you be more interested in looking at these then porn? Consider the sexy picures shots of just her and shots of maybe you and her together. Or would you still want to look at porn? If guys are visual, then pictures of their partner should get them excited too. But if looking at porn is more then just being visual, I would bet that pictures of your SO alone isnt' good enough. That's my thoughts at least.
MrNate Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 Question for the guys. If your gf or wife provided you with sexy pictures of her, would you be more interested in looking at these then porn? Consider the sexy picures shots of just her and shots of maybe you and her together. Or would you still want to look at porn? If guys are visual, then pictures of their partner should get them excited too. But if looking at porn is more then just being visual, I would bet that pictures of your SO alone isnt' good enough. That's my thoughts at least. Then why don't we just not look at any attractive male and female? We can't help what we are attracted to. Guys are very visual creatures and we won't apologize for that. A sexy woman is a sexy woman. We will find other women pleasing to the eye aside from our SO. We love curves, and we love them in the right places. It will always be that way. This does not make excuse for a man/woman to just stare at a woman/man while his/her significant other is present. That's just disrespectful.
Rorschach Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 She has, and yes in the presence of nekkid SO pictures I don't look at porn.
RobM Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 if the women cared enough about sex in the first place that they would do this we probably wouldn't be looking at porn anyway.
TheBigQuestion Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 Question for the guys. If your gf or wife provided you with sexy pictures of her, would you be more interested in looking at these then porn? Consider the sexy picures shots of just her and shots of maybe you and her together. Or would you still want to look at porn? If guys are visual, then pictures of their partner should get them excited too. But if looking at porn is more then just being visual, I would bet that pictures of your SO alone isnt' good enough. That's my thoughts at least. You're really never going to leave this topic alone, are you? Despite the fact that you've convinced no one of your views and have failed to have an argument without constant appeals to emotion and other assorted logical fallacies? I've never had a significant other give me sexy/nude pictures of herself, so I can't personally say whether or not I'd still view porn if I had to choose between images of her and images from porn.
Woggle Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 Yes I would rather look at them than porn. I do have a question for the women here though. If I am on a business trip for a week and nowhere near my wife and I started to feel horny would it be degrading for me to pleasure myself while thinking of her or looking at these pictures? Would most women find this degrading?
tigressA Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 Yes I would rather look at them than porn. I do have a question for the women here though. If I am on a business trip for a week and nowhere near my wife and I started to feel horny would it be degrading for me to pleasure myself while thinking of her or looking at these pictures? Would most women find this degrading? I've sent sexy pictures of myself to two guys I've dated--have even had some fun photo shoots that they had creative control over--and they loved it. Both ended up "confessing" (I think they were somewhat embarrassed, don't know why though) that they pleasured themselves to some of the pictures, but it turned me on and I told them so. I think it's totally hot.
ComeUndone Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 I've sent really raunchy, hot pics to my bf... I think he has jacked-off to mine as well, but apparently men still want the "variety" they get with porn... and he still watches it.
SouthernSunshine Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 I do have a question for the women here though. If I am on a business trip for a week and nowhere near my wife and I started to feel horny would it be degrading for me to pleasure myself while thinking of her or looking at these pictures? Would most women find this degrading? Not at all! When my SO goes out of town, we have Skype sex with each other. I get creative, and buy sexy lingerie then surprise him with it.. I give him a real nice show.
Romance Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 I've sent my boyfriend sexy pictures but I don't care if he watches porn. i don't send them to deter him from watching porn.
Author Jersey Shortie Posted April 23, 2010 Author Posted April 23, 2010 I appreicate all the responses. And encourage more opinions. Then why don't we just not look at any attractive male and female? We can't help what we are attracted to. That wasn't the question and I didn't say we could help what we were attracted to. Guys are very visual creatures and we won't apologize for that. A sexy woman is a sexy woman. We will find other women pleasing to the eye aside from our SO. We love curves, and we love them in the right places. It will always be that way. This does not make excuse for a man/woman to just stare at a woman/man while his/her significant other is present. That's just disrespectful. Again, this wasn't the question. Can you directly answer it? sexy pictures of her would be infinitely better than porn That's nice to hear. Woogel: Yes I would rather look at them than porn. I do have a question for the women here though. If I am on a business trip for a week and nowhere near my wife and I started to feel horny would it be degrading for me to pleasure myself while thinking of her or looking at these pictures? Would most women find this degrading? I don't think that's degrading at all. I think it's awesome when men focus their sexual feelings on their partner. You're really never going to leave this topic alone, are you? Despite the fact that you've convinced no one of your views and have failed to have an argument without constant appeals to emotion and other assorted logical fallacies? BigQuestion, just because you're a man doesn't mean your more logical. I am very logical and yes I have emotions. And I have had MANY people tell me I make good points. Now answer the question on what you think you would do without this junk about " I never did it so I don't know". I've sent really raunchy, hot pics to my bf... I think he has jacked-off to mine as well, but apparently men still want the "variety" they get with porn... and he still watches it. Yes. I believe that's the case. It's not just about being "visual". It's also about the vareity and options.
Green Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 I think its fun to have sexy pictures of your gf. I can understand if a girl isn't willing to give nude pics of herself which would be the best. Some bikini pics or something would do fine. Butt a guy who looks at porn will continue to look.
MrNate Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 (edited) Since I haven't answered it directly, then yes, pictures of a SO would be better to look at than porn, for a while. But chances are, yes, we'll still going to look at porn, especially if we're heterosexual and have viewed porn before. We will find our SO attractive, but we will also find other women attractive. That's just how it is. Edited April 23, 2010 by MrNate
Author Jersey Shortie Posted April 23, 2010 Author Posted April 23, 2010 That's just how it is. When I hear you guys say things liek this what is really being said if you ask me : "it only matters what men want".
Els Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 JS, I don't understand. Contrary to what the people here say, there ARE men who don't enjoy porn... quite a substantial number of them! Since it is such a huge issue to you, why not look for those men instead of churning out post after post after post here trying to convince people who already have you tagged as JS = antiporn?
Jaytb Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 JS, I don't understand. Contrary to what the people here say, there ARE men who don't enjoy porn... quite a substantial number of them! Since it is such a huge issue to you, why not look for those men instead of churning out post after post after post here trying to convince people who already have you tagged as JS = antiporn? some women look at porn too. I rarely see the OP shame women who do that. And never says anything about lesbian porn (no men abusing women so it's clean, right? ) And how about gay porn? Is the OP going to complain about men abusing men? You know, I think Green is right about porn. It gets boring after a while, no wonder people get into the weird stuff easily. I've been looking at it less and less and using my imagination and internet erotic fiction instead. OMG I'm a woman! lol. I guess most guys just don't have as vivid an imagination as I do, most guys will say they can't get off to text on a page (but I can, which of course makes me feel like a black sheep ) well to answer JS's question, yeah I would definitely like naked pics or sexy pics of my SO. I have plenty of imagination so I can definitely enjoy it lol.
Els Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 some women look at porn too. I rarely see the OP shame women who do that. And never says anything about lesbian porn (no men abusing women so it's clean, right? ) And how about gay porn? Is the OP going to complain about men abusing men? *shrugs* I did try to tell her in some other thread that many women, including me, love a nice dose of porn. She said it was different. I typically alternate between videos, pictures, erotica, text-based RP and the good ol' imagination.
threebyfate Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 JS, every time I read one of your threads, the elements of major insecurity hence the need to control a partner's entire being, disturbs me. While I don't support porn and have swung from condescending amusement to open revulsion, I also don't support consumption of partners.
Author Jersey Shortie Posted April 26, 2010 Author Posted April 26, 2010 *shrugs* I did try to tell her in some other thread that many women, including me, love a nice dose of porn. She said it was different. I typically alternate between videos, pictures, erotica, text-based RP and the good ol' imagination. Why don't you try articulating more of my response instead of misrepersenting it by saying I said "it was different". While there are elements of female porn use that I do think are different from men, I never said I agreed porn use was right either male or female. I don't think the answer is *more porn* all around for both genders. I never once denied that women don't also view porn and that it's probably grown with the advent of the internet. I say these things repeatidly but people choose to hear what they want to hear. Lastly, I don't date women and I don't have experiences with women in regards to porn. I do date men and I have experiences with men in regards to porn so it makes sense that my experiences, concerning men and porn, are something I can comment on. I don't think porn is right either way and I think is degrading no matter who is viewing it. Lastly, Threebyfate, if I wanted to control a person's entire being, I would dictate orders about what a man or woman could or couldn't do. I never told anyone I dated they couldn't do what they wanted to do. I never said "porn is totally off limits". I have expressed my views on it and that is all. Clearly I am not the only person that has these issues even if I am more vocal about experessing them. If I wanted to control a person's entire being, I would have more threads on here about other things other then porn. Glad I could set you ladies straight.
Jaytb Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 Why don't you try articulating more of my response instead of misrepersenting it by saying I said "it was different". While there are elements of female porn use that I do think are different from men, I never said I agreed porn use was right either male or female. I don't think the answer is *more porn* all around for both genders. I never once denied that women don't also view porn and that it's probably grown with the advent of the internet. I say these things repeatidly but people choose to hear what they want to hear. Lastly, I don't date women and I don't have experiences with women in regards to porn. I do date men and I have experiences with men in regards to porn so it makes sense that my experiences, concerning men and porn, are something I can comment on. I don't think porn is right either way and I think is degrading no matter who is viewing it. Lastly, Threebyfate, if I wanted to control a person's entire being, I would dictate orders about what a man or woman could or couldn't do. I never told anyone I dated they couldn't do what they wanted to do. I never said "porn is totally off limits". I have expressed my views on it and that is all. Clearly I am not the only person that has these issues even if I am more vocal about experessing them. If I wanted to control a person's entire being, I would have more threads on here about other things other then porn. Glad I could set you ladies straight. Can I ask you something? Do you really have a problem with what other people do with their time? Given: A. Porn is legal B. Women in porn have to be of age of consent C. Women in porn have to consent to doing porn, and are entitled to workers' protections (as are any worker) D. Women in porn, if they believe they are being abused, can leave their work at any time for any reason E. You don't have to use porn, no one is forcing you to use porn F. You don't have to date someone who looks at porn where is the problem? And by the way, I don't really like porn. I don't like maybe 99% of the porn out there. And I think it is harmful for someone to replace their entire interaction with women with porn. But what is the problem other than that? If someone's horny, not in a relationship, has normal interactions with women, and thinks nothing of porn other than "look she's hot!" then what's the problem? And please don't type the same things you always type. I won't even bother responding if you just type the same shtick you always do, like "Men are doing it more than ever!" (like that's really an argument) or "it changes your perceptions of women" (it along with TV, video games, movies, books, writing, reading, thinking, hormones, quantum spin, blah blah blah).
Dirk Diggler Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 Question for the guys. If your gf or wife provided you with sexy pictures of her, would you be more interested in looking at these then porn? Consider the sexy picures shots of just her and shots of maybe you and her together. Or would you still want to look at porn? If guys are visual, then pictures of their partner should get them excited too. But if looking at porn is more then just being visual, I would bet that pictures of your SO alone isnt' good enough. That's my thoughts at least. If there is down time in which she is not around, at work, busy etc..I would rather masturbate to porn because it satisfies that momentary need of release, be it a porn star or some spicy pin up of the day. Where if she is around of course sex with her trumps that of porn.... Rather than just getting used to rubbing one out to pictures of your SO, which would take away from that element physically.
Twenty-ten Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 It really bugs me when I come in to read a thread and I have to sift through a bunch of posts commenting on how they dislike the OP's intentions of what they are posting about, or they have to personalize it. If it really bothers people that much to see the same posters making the same comments all the then just don't post in their thread. There you go! In the meantime, if the mods of the site don't find certain poster's needs to post about the same topics all the time offensive, then why do some people around here even give a hoot? I know this was intended for men to respond, but while I would think it hot that my guy gets off on picture images of me or of images of us/me in his memory bank I also understand that sometimes you just need to fantasize about something different. I don't always want to fantasize about my guy, majority of the time I do, but sometimes I want to enjoy something from my memory bank or from pure fantasy with strangers and not so strangers. I would assume it's the same for guys. Doesn't mean I love or desire my guy any less, not at all.
BobSacamento Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 In the words of Admiral Ackbar...IT'S A TRAP!
Author Jersey Shortie Posted April 27, 2010 Author Posted April 27, 2010 If it really bothers people that much to see the same posters making the same comments all the then just don't post in their thread. There you go! In the meantime, if the mods of the site don't find certain poster's needs to post about the same topics all the time offensive, then why do some people around here even give a hoot? I'm that special "certain poster". Can I ask you something? Do you really have a problem with what other people do with their time? Given: A. Porn is legal B. Women in porn have to be of age of consent C. Women in porn have to consent to doing porn, and are entitled to workers' protections (as are any worker) D. Women in porn, if they believe they are being abused, can leave their work at any time for any reason E. You don't have to use porn, no one is forcing you to use porn F. You don't have to date someone who looks at porn where is the problem? Yes, sometimes I do have a problem with how others spend their time. Is that too un-pc for you to hear? Truth is, we all do because we all form opinions on what we believe to be right or fair. I do not buy the popular mindset of "hey whatever makes *you* feel good". I will stand up for the things I don't agree with. I also dislike people who don't recycle or over-use products and wastefullness. I am also a registered Repulican and vote in every election I can to let my voice be heard. And I dislike porn because I find it overall disrsepectful to women. None of the reasons above negate that or negate any of the points I've brought up in the history of my posting about this subject. And by the way, I don't really like porn. I don't like maybe 99% of the porn out there. And I think it is harmful for someone to replace their entire interaction with women with porn. But what is the problem other than that? If someone's horny, not in a relationship, has normal interactions with women, and thinks nothing of porn other than "look she's hot!" then what's the problem? The problem is the 99% of it you don't like. The fact is that you agree 99% of it is distasteful and that 1% will speak 99x louder then the 99% part you claim you dno't like. That's the problem. That men recogonize that it doesn't treat women right but 99% of it doesn't matter for your 1% of pleasure. If women had a medium that treated men 1/10th how porn treats women, I think you would be singning a different tune. I sincerely hate the ambvilence most men have to this subject and the justification about it all boiling down to what *you* need as a *man* to be satisified even if comes at a 99% cost to women. And please don't type the same things you always type. I won't even bother responding if you just type the same shtick you always do, like "Men are doing it more than ever!" (like that's really an argument) or "it changes your perceptions of women" (it along with TV, video games, movies, books, writing, reading, thinking, hormones, quantum spin, blah blah blah). So you want to ask me a question then you want to tell me how I can respond???? What is wrong with you. I've heard this same shtick from you before as well, the points you detailed out above. This is something yuo've said several times already. But that's okay right. Face it, you just don't like the answer I give you because you don't agree with it. Well too bad. And yes, men ARE looking at this kind of stuff more the nbefore and it does change male perceptions of women. Why in the world any man thinks a woman shouldn't be concerned when he is looking at a million different images of different women being degraded for male pleasure,and that somehow women shouldn't be concerned how they are viewed is beyond me. But you want to know what I think? I think men totally understand why some women are concerned or bothered by it. Because like you, i think most men agree that the porn industry is pretty overall degrading to women. But none of that matterse to most men as long as you get to jerk off. That's what is really sad here. Men sell women out for a jerk off session.
Els Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 You're right, JS, I merely summed up what you said instead. :/ I did not say you said it was alright for females to watch porn, just that you considered it a different thing. Which you agreed with. Would you mind responding to my first post? And yes, to answer the question, I do have quite a few sexy pictures of my SO. I still watch porn though. Ironically, he seldom does watch porn, although I'd contribute that more to him working insane hours than anything else.
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