DeadHead Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 Hey guys! This site has helped my out in the past and I needed some more help so i decided to come on here! This is my situation.. Well my girlfriend and I have been dating for about 2 months, I've known her for 4 months. The first time I saw her I really knew she was something special.. We clicked right away. But she just had a bad breakup and I'm sure you guys know how that goes.. I didn't find out about the break until about 8 days after meeting her. Her friends told me about it, I won't get into details but it was pretty sad and I felt her pain. We really started to get to know each other and i really started to fall inlove with her, she is everything i want, not like any other girl I ever met. I'll fast forward a bit and skip some stuff.. but now we are dating and I really love her more then anything, and she loves me.. But it doesnt seem like she trusts me.. First her friends tell her that I'm a bad guy.. and truly im not.. they don't even know me! That caused her to question me.. i told her the truth but i could see her doubt. Oh and before I go on I just want to say that it seems like I'm always loving her, and never being moody even if im mad about something i just don't show it to her, i don't want to bring her down, but if something is wrong with her it's like she takes it out on me.. then when I ask what's wrong its almost like im annoying her by asking she usually just replies with "nothing" and if nothing was wrong it would be more like "Nothing is wrong babe" or something along the lines of that. Okay back to the story! Well she is constantly worrying that I'm gonna leave her, I always tell her that I'm not and I wouldn't leave such an amazing person, but then she says "Well that's what my ex said and look how that turned out"... I tell her that I am a different person and to trust me but she says she just doesnt want to get hurt again. Which i completly understand and I see why she is fearful.. But this worrying and stressing is just unhealthy for our relationship.. She always says that she doesn't want to lose me.. but in all honesty her constant worrying and just not accepting me is hurting me.. I really am truly honest when I say that I am not going to leave her.. truthfully I would rather her leave me so she doesn't have to get hurt again.. Any insight? Thanks
TaraMaiden Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 try to relax, and make that you're laid back about it and taking it in your stride. Don't be flippant. next time she says something of this kind, tell her, "you'll be sorry when we're drawing iour pension, that you said that!" Or maybe "Yeh well you can think that all you like, I'm not that easy to shift!" And even "You trying to get rid of me, babe?" be light-hearted, then change the subject, like asking her what she'd like to do at the weekend. Add some small romantic touches, like a little bunch of flowers, or a little bit of inexpensive jewellery... leave her little notes where she will find them. send her a card, and don't tell her you've sent it.... do little romantic things to make her day. She should soon drop the negative attitude....
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