SavannahSmiles Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 If chatting with women online is okay with your wife then maybe it wouldn't be considered cheating but if you do it behind her back then yes I would consider it cheating. My H caught me talking to a guy I met in a local discussion forum and hit the roof. We argued but I saw his point of view. It could easily lead to an EA and then possibly a PA. Luckily I didn't have an addiction. It was just fun but that's how a lot of people fool themselves. They say its just fun until the emotions kick in.
Ruby Slippers Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 (edited) Married and attached men trolling the chat rooms for dirty talk, dirty pictures, phone sex, and possibly more are a dime a dozen. I don't give them the time of day anymore, but when I was younger, I was very curious to hear the uncensored thoughts of these "happily" married men. There are just droves of them. You show these guys just one non-dirty picture of yourself and they are immediately in love with you. One that I still talk to found my mp3s online. A fellow musician, he got in touch with me almost 10 years ago to rave about my music, and we have been chatting sporadically ever since. He's a wealthy exec with "the perfect marriage", a community leader. He has told me all the details about why his sex life is lame and his wife is boring in bed, and all the cam shows he watches and dirty chats he has to try to compensate. He says he has strongly considered having an affair, and he dreams about it all the time. I have asked him why he doesn't leave her if it's so bad. He says she and the family would be devastated, and it would be bad for his career, since they are "the perfect couple". At least they are finally in marriage counseling. He says it doesn't help much, but at least the sex is slightly spicier. I think that if a man is befriending all these women and sending hearts and kisses and "luv you"s, he has probably had intimate discussions with them, and probably cyber sex or maybe even phone sex. He will probably just start hiding it. The guy I mentioned above only talks to me when his wife is not home or out of town, and he goes to great lengths to hide all his online activities, pictures, and porn. He says she has no idea and thinks he's the perfect husband. In cases like this one, I think there's almost always more than meets the eye. Given the circumstances, I think monitoring his online activities is smart. You will probably be shocked at what you discover. Edited May 9, 2010 by Ruby Slippers
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