EthanH Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 OK i have written pages and pages on these forums recently, but this question is simple. This is to those who have dumped someone. In the days/weeks after you broke up with them, did you ever have a regular habit of going out and getting really really really drunk. Like going out with the sole intention of getting drunk. And I don't just mean drunk, i mean drunker than you used to get when you were going out to have a good time. And if so, why did you do it?
northstar1 Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 OK i have written pages and pages on these forums recently, but this question is simple. This is to those who have dumped someone. In the days/weeks after you broke up with them, did you ever have a regular habit of going out and getting really really really drunk. Like going out with the sole intention of getting drunk. And I don't just mean drunk, i mean drunker than you used to get when you were going out to have a good time. And if so, why did you do it? I think I went out the next day and got drunk, then realized I felt 100 times worse the day after. I learned that getting drunk just depresses you even more. Some people do it to 'forget', but in reality it just brings all the emotions to the surface, hence why so many break NC when drunk by texting/calling their exs
TaraMaiden Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 Never, never, never, EVER entered my head. I dumped a guy I was so in love with - really, I was better off without him, but I was desperately in love with him, and it tore me apart. I felt as if my insides had been ripped out, jumbled up with an emetic, and shoved back into me, upside down. But drink? Never crossed my mind. Not a once.
Author EthanH Posted April 22, 2010 Author Posted April 22, 2010 she is doing it to try and get over me, going out and 'having a good time'...(annoying thing was that when we got back for a couple of days after the intitial break-up, she told me she got drunk and slept with a guy to try and get over me before, but it didn't obviously work...I would be so much better off if I didn't know all the stuff she told me then!) i can understand why someone who has been dumped would do it, but not someone who was the dumper...
freckles3131 Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 I think the dumper would want to get drunk because although they feel confident they did the right thing by dumping, it still hurts....there can still be reasons to love you...but they just don't love us enough to stay. So it is still painful to them as well... Plus, the whole "did I do the right thing by leaving" thing....or to "have a good time" so they don't have to "think" about things.
northstar1 Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 she is doing it to try and get over me, going out and 'having a good time'...(annoying thing was that when we got back for a couple of days after the intitial break-up, she told me she got drunk and slept with a guy to try and get over me before, but it didn't obviously work...I would be so much better off if I didn't know all the stuff she told me then!) i can understand why someone who has been dumped would do it, but not someone who was the dumper... Keep in mind her age, not surprising at 19 she's going to go drinking after something like that.
Author EthanH Posted April 22, 2010 Author Posted April 22, 2010 oh yeah of course... i just think it is weird, i have known her long enough to know when she is wanting to go out to have fun, she gets drunk, but not that drunk...
Ilovecake Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 I'm not a big drinker. I like to go out and have a few but really hate getting wasted. My ex (the dumper) did tell me when we broke up that he pretty much just drank from morning till night, but then he always was a binge drinker. I told him I wished so badly that I could do the same thing to make myself feel better and he said "no you don't it makes you feel a 100 times worse. It magnifies the pain 10 times over." I asked him why he did that then and he said "because he blacks out so that the next day at least he doesn’t remember how horrible he felt the day before".
hater13 Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 I don't drink as I'm a religious person, my ex on the other hand did and does still drink. During our relationship he stopped drinking. But right after we broke up (we kept contact for a week after the break up) he texted me saying "time to get drunk" (he knows I dislike when people get completely wasted- especially him). Four days later was his birthday and he was pretty much completely drunk for 2 days straight. When he goes back home from uni he plans on having a party and getting smashed, once again. He's drinking a lot more then he normally did!!! I guess this is his way of getting over me? Even though he's the one that broke up with me he stated several times he was still not "over it"
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