Author tigressA Posted April 23, 2010 Author Posted April 23, 2010 i'm indian BTW so you can give me a call sometime Thanks for that, Alpha... I haven't gone really in-depth with this guy I've been talking to about his background, but I'm going to do that soon. Norajane posted some good ideas for questions that I can ask. So far there hasn't been much indication at all as to what he'd do either way.
gypsy_nicky Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 Im not pigeon holing certain races of men for being sexist but as a general it does ring true for those countries you mentioned (I have visited and lived in some way back). One because woman's rights were not fought and won over in those countries and two most of those countries are still very much traditional in sex roles. Tigress, best route I think would be to date someone westernized but is of your ethnic preference. (the women these men will prefer will be of a submissive disposition because of their culture and upbringing.)
TheBigQuestion Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 Speaking of being into certain ethnicities, if anyone here runs into a woman who is into guys who are both Greek and Latino, point them in my direction.
callalilly Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 I'm dating an Indian guy right now and he is by far the sweetest, most romantic guy I've ever dated. He is in a unique situation in that he's decided to settle in the states and has a job that's likely to be permanent and he'll be able to get his own green card eventually. There is no chance of an arranged marriage in his case. You just have to make sure to find out early on in the relationship what the guy's future plans are...and don't get involved if there is any chance he's going back and getting married!
SilentVoice Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 I don't really have much to add. Since I have only dated two middle eastern guys but both were born here ... But lol
You'reasian Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 What you wrote here made me ponder the irony of this preference. I've always fancied myself an independent, liberated woman. And you're right, the culture these men come from is notoriously sexist and paternal. I can't say definitively that the men I previously involved myself with *weren't* like that *at all*, because the involvement was brief. But from what I did experience, it was easy to be myself with them, and easy to trust them--actually much more so than I've found it to be with non-Indian/Middle Eastern men. Joe, think outside the box: How does an independent, liberated, feminist woman fall in love with a traditional, conservative male with core beliefs in either Islam or Hinduism? While it may seem like a contradictory combination, the independent, liberated woman is probably open minded and accepting of the man's cultural practices as a whole, rather than the parts (i.e. the covering of the face, separating women from men, not allowing men to speak to them). Add to it a western-educated Muslim or Hindu male is probably of a slightly higher socio-economic class than his brothers back home and probably somewhat comfortable with western ways of doing things. The strongest sources of friction in this relationship: - when other men, potentially attractive to the woman (Muslim or Indian) make sexual passes at the man's girlfriend and the independent-liberal type of woman plays along. Ethnic rivalries and religious differences would probably add fuel to the fire in this scenario. - the woman is into open relationships.
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