EmperorR Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 Even though she's the biggest liar I know and ran back to her cheating ex of a baby dad who popped up out of nowhere. When I first starting dating her he was like 1 year old now 10 months later I can't believe most likely I will never see him again, I miss spending time with him, I miss his cries, I guess this is why no contact is so hard this time, I just want to text and see how's he doing. FML
Ronni_W Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 Hugs, EmperorR. It is difficult. But you're not gonna text, right? Console yourself with the fact that her son is with his parents. He is doing fine. On the other side, your feelings *might* be an 'inner call' to perhaps become a Big Brother or somesuch?
Chrome Barracuda Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 You need to focus on having your own son. It's not your problem anymore. wipe your hands clean and move on. It's nice that you feel concern for the kid but it isnt your concern like i said. move on.
ItsAllGoodAgain Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 I understand what you're going through. I fell in love with my ex's 2 year old daughter. All three of us had so much fun together. She left me to get back with her baby's daddy as well. I had to get over two people instead of one. What made it so much easier for me was knowing that the daughter had both parents around. This is the way it should be. I couldn't imagine the smile on her face every morning waking to both mom and dad. Belive me, this will pass. Just know that you were good to both of them and someday you'll have your own son or daughter to share many moments and memories with. Be proud that someday you will be a good parent.
DustySaltus Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 I've dated a woman with a son before and it's a tough situation. What I realized is that no matter what happens that father is ALWAYS going to have a connection with her and the child that is never going to go away. No matter how much of a dead beat he is at the end of the day all women in her situation want to try and be a family. They often blind themselves to a lot of the issues to try and make it work. Most of the time it doesn't and they come crawling back to you. But you have to resist it, because it's a cycle. I was very close with my potential nephew when I was engaged and living in another country. He emails me once and a while and it's extremely hard since I am in complete NC with my ex fiance and don't want to know anything about her. So I try to be genuine with him but at the end of the day I know we will never have the bond that we could've had. But that's not my problem and I have no reason to blame myself or feel guilty for what happened, neither should you.
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