Lilo Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 Found out two weeks ago that my boyfriend had been cheating on me for like the last two months. I asked him about it and he denyed it and then he came forward after i found out he was at a hotel with one of the girls. He came home and we "talked" but found out that it was two girls for two months, and that he doesnt know why he cheated and that he "loves" me and wants to work out our relationship. Now that two weeks have gone by i notice myself not believeing ANYTHING, its also because he always said he was working but in reality he was hooking up with chicks and staying the nite in hotels with them. He told me he had deleted the numbers and would not talk to them. But this past weekend one of them called and the other TXT and wow the numbers were still in his phone. He then in front of me deleted the numbers and txt one back saying to leave him alone. But also in his email he has emails from both. i honestly dont know what to do i wanna work on the relationship but i dont know if he can be honest, or more so i dont think i can trust him!
Disintegration Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 Seems like he will do it again and lie about it. He definitely can't be trusted. Unless you are willing to believe everything he says including if he is where he says he is and with whom you will always have doubt. Ask yourself if it really is worth the hassle? Love isn't cheating, plus would you have known if he hadn't been caught? It's one thing to feel guilty, and remorse and actually have a conscience but you are the one who caught him. He most likely would have kept you in the dark about his cheating.
ADF Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 As painful as it is, when you find your SO has cheated, you need to immediately end the realtionship and cut off all contact with that person forever. If you do anything less, you send them a clear message: "I am weak. I am needy. I am pathetic. You can treat me any way you want, and I'll put up with it." Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Phateless Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 Found out two weeks ago that my boyfriend had been cheating on me for like the last two months. I asked him about it and he denyed it and then he came forward after i found out he was at a hotel with one of the girls. He came home and we "talked" but found out that it was two girls for two months, and that he doesnt know why he cheated and that he "loves" me and wants to work out our relationship. Now that two weeks have gone by i notice myself not believeing ANYTHING, its also because he always said he was working but in reality he was hooking up with chicks and staying the nite in hotels with them. He told me he had deleted the numbers and would not talk to them. But this past weekend one of them called and the other TXT and wow the numbers were still in his phone. He then in front of me deleted the numbers and txt one back saying to leave him alone. But also in his email he has emails from both. i honestly dont know what to do i wanna work on the relationship but i dont know if he can be honest, or more so i dont think i can trust him! How can you trust him? Two girls for two months is crazy. If it was a one-time thing and he came forward then I would say give it a chance, but this is nothing like that. Ongoing cheating for two months... Could you do that to someone you love?
EmperorR Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 You know what happaned after he txted that chick to leave him alone, he probably wen home and called her sorry babe I was busy at the moment. This guy will never change, he knows he can continue to do this apologize I he gets caught and you will accept it forgive and everything will b ok until his hand ia in thE cookie jar again.
benB Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 Why would you even want to be with someone whos cheated on you? He clearly has no respect for you, stop talking to him
Author Lilo Posted May 9, 2010 Author Posted May 9, 2010 well he now blames me for being to questiony! we are done and time to move on! i deserve better and personally he is showing me that he takes no responsibility in his acions by trying to blame me for everything!
Reality Drip Posted May 24, 2010 Posted May 24, 2010 He likes the stability of having you in a relationship with him..someone to care for him, someone for him to care after as well. But he's in heat. The man is going to do this again. It's been multiple women over a short period of time this is a pattern and if you are smart - you'll walk away. Why spend your time questioning everything the person you're with is up to when you could either A: Be happier alone doing what you want B: Be with someone else that won't spend their nights at Econo Lodges with skanky gals. -Max
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