Has anyone broken up with someone, then realized it was a mistake?

[undisclosed]

Has anyone ever broken up with someone because they couldn't see themselves with that person in the long run (marriage or just lifetime commitment), but later realized they were just not ready and made a mistake? what happened?

[JamesM]

Yes.

 

We got back together....and have been married twenty years.

[undisclosed]

Hi! I'm so happy it worked out for you. I realize thats not the case for most, but I still love him, although I've been dealing with the heartbreak and trying to just accept that it's over. How long were you apart?

[JustJoe]

I did with my college sweetie, and we are talking. Maybe we can put it back together and maybe not.

[giotto]

yes... one of my girlfriends before I met my wife... some months after we broke up - and before I met my future wife - I realised I made a mistake... she was the one! Unfortunately, she lived in a different country, with a new boyfriend and very happy...

[JamesM]

Hi! I'm so happy it worked out for you. I realize thats not the case for most, but I still love him, although I've been dealing with the heartbreak and trying to just accept that it's over. How long were you apart?

 

I think it was about a month.

[dennisflorida]

a gal i dated for a year in college broke up with me and

recently 10 years later found me, emailed me and said that

she was wrong and that she was totally "dumb and naive"

(her words) and wished she had never broken up with me

because she realized that what we had was very special and

she hasn't met anyone like me since and wanted to catch up,

etc.

 

I told her i was happily married with a baby. She responded

that she was happy for me and I never heard back from her,

which is what i wanted. The past is in the past.

[Lauriebell82]

Yes, I broke up with my ex boyfriend because he would have made a terrible husband. I still loved him and wanted to be with him in the short term, but not the long term. So in order to get my mind off of it I came up with a project to start a fitness program and lose weight. I lost about 30 pounds!

 

I am sooooooo glad I did not cave and get back with him because I was upset and miserable. I found a better guy who I am marrying in less then 5 months!

[befreckled]

Has anyone ever broken up with someone because they couldn't see themselves with that person in the long run (marriage or just lifetime commitment), but later realized they were just not ready and made a mistake? what happened?

 

I was engaged when I was 19 and broke up because, it was a really stresseful LDR and because, I wasn't ready to get married.

 

We met up for a chat a couple years and realised that he was the love of my life but, it was too late. He was married, albeit unhappily with two kids whom he loved. We had a brief affair and, realised quickly that he could not live without his kids. She would have taken them away if she realised that he was still in love with me.

 

He has the life that he has ALWAYS wanted to live except I'm not there. I have the life that I've always wanted except he isn't here. We still speak once a year. He doesn't know my number or address so he can't contact me but i know where he works so I contact him.

[Ilovecake]

Yes and he married someone else. 12 years later and I know I will never have another relationship like I did with him but at the time we just wanted different things. He was very extraverted and liked to party and was very much a night person I was the complete opposite. We loved each other very much and gave it our best for 6 years. We moved in together and that's when I realized I don't want to come home for the rest of my life not knowing where my significant other is and when I'll see him next so I had to let him go. He really is a wonderful person and the only ex I can't think of one bad thing I could say about.

[Art_Critic]

I thought I had when I first came to LS.. then if you read my signature line you will see why I feel you break up for a reason...