singlelife Posted April 21, 2010 Posted April 21, 2010 So I divorced the ex and have been feeling much better. We got on each others nerves and were miserable. SO Looking back we were just not compatible. No hard feelings. Well she has been calling the last 6 months wanting to go have dinner. I have been turning her down because it didn't make since. She even called me on my birthday and sent pics of me with our dog from like 6 years ago. About six months ago I hung up on her because she was talking bossy and crazy and we haven't seen each other in years and it wasn't no use in talking. We weren't even trying to hook up it was just a regular conversation. She kept calling and I ignored her for two months. Then I told her to quit starting ****. There is no reason for her to call me to argue. She said she wasn't trying to. I realized that is just part of her personality I don't like. So we have been civil on the phone and then she wants to hang out. So we do and we have drinks and get caught up. We had great conversation. I thought that we both explained why we get on each others nerves. I made sure it was clear we weren't getting back together( even though I don't think she wanted that I just had to clarify). But she kept being too bossy. I explained to her that she needed men to hang out with that are really laid back who will follow her lead. Not an alpha male like me. I do my own thing and don't have to worry about this anymore so please quit being bossy. Of course she doesn't see this. She did explaine that guys she dated after me were more passive. She alsio shared that she wished I would have fought hard to keep her. And that they didn't tell her how fine she is like I did or do any of the things I do. I shared that's too bad and we laughed. So she eventually pissed me off with all the bossiness and I left. I was supposed to stay the night but it felt like I was forcing myself to just hang with her. I explained I am not holding a grudge but I ain't coming back there is no need for this. She told me she just wanted to see for herself if we could mesh. I wanted to tell her she was crazy but just left and felt super once I hit the freeway. So I ask you guys and gals. What was she thinking. Oh yeah I have been getting a lot of restricted calls and hang ups all week.
stace79 Posted April 21, 2010 Posted April 21, 2010 She's nuts. Maybe she is just one of those chicks who needs to have all men's attention all the time. My ex dated a girl like that before me. She didn't want him but didn't want anyone else to have him either, and it drove her nuts that he started picking me over her. I would just tell her clearly you don't want to talk to her anymore, that you don't have hard feelings but that it didn't work and you don't want to be her friend now. Then if she keeps bothering you call the cops!
Author singlelife Posted April 21, 2010 Author Posted April 21, 2010 Interesting. Yeah I am waaaaay happier without her around.
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