farmersgirl Posted April 21, 2010 Posted April 21, 2010 (edited) Oh, if I could only take a snap-shot of my relationship and get an honest and legit response, my day would be made! In a nutshell let me bring you into my world. Met my boyfriend Dec 08... at the time I was in a 10 year relationship headed no-where and on the brinks... He was in a 4 year relationship that was similar. We knew we had chemistry, so we ended our relationships and jumped into each other too quickly. We fell in love, and at the time he was still talking to his ex, and from what I hear others, but I don't know if it was just flirtatious, which he was always known for. We had a rough summer, because we are boaters, and his ex would always try to hang out with his friends, and be everywhere we were. I was faced with some challenging situations, and overcame them. Dec 09 he was tired of the rumors, and wanted me to know how he really felt for me, and asked to be exclusive. Since then, life has been pretty good, love has been a bit of a challenge because I have a bit of a hard time communicating my feelings about not knowing how he really feels. I know he loves me so much, and ever since we've met, we spend most every night together. We love all of the same things, we never argue, our passion is out of this world and we can't keep our hands off each other. He's taught me more in just over a year than I have learned in years and years... not to mention I can picture having a family with him and growing old with him. He tells me every other day that he wants kids, and he wants a future with me... and he will be moving into a house on his own shortly. It needs renovations, and he wants me to help him, and move into this house with him this summer. My situation right now is uncomfortable, between my moms house, my brothers house and sleeping at his house every night... I don't feel like I have a home. If I were to move in, it is primarily because this is what I want, not because I have no other choice. My mom says if I move in with him, chances of us getting engaged and married down the road might be slim... she also thinks this summer will be interesting and I should wait it out until after summer. I'm torn because I just want to get everything organized and stop worrying all the time about where I'm going to be, and living out of a bag when we are so content with being with each other most nights of the week. How do I know if this is what he truly wants... he brings it up a lot, but sometimes I get the feeling he might be unsure... what should I do? BTW we are both 26, turning 27 this year... Edited April 21, 2010 by farmersgirl
Ruby Slippers Posted April 21, 2010 Posted April 21, 2010 My mom says if I move in with him, chances of us getting engaged and married down the road might be slim... I agree. she also thinks this summer will be interesting and I should wait it out until after summer. More great advice from mom. I'm torn because I just want to get everything organized and stop worrying all the time about where I'm going to be, and living out of a bag when we are so content with being with each other most nights of the week. Then figure this stuff out on your own. You only became exclusive a few months ago. Moving in now would be very fast. You've both been coupled up most of your adult lives and have never really stood on your own feet independently. I think he wants you to move in with him largely because it's a new, scary change and he's probably somewhat apprehensive about it. If he makes this adjustment and continues to want you to move in with him, then that tells you he's really invested. It won't hurt either of you to wait, but it could and probably will hurt the relationship to move too fast. I say take care of your own living situation now and let him take care of his. Leases can be sublet or broken; things change. Wait and see how the transition affects the relationship to make the huge decision to cohabitate.
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