allycat89 Posted April 21, 2010 Posted April 21, 2010 my boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year and we have lived together for 6 months. I know we made a mistake in moving in too early but we were 20 and 'in love' well, I think ive fallen out of love. I dont like his kisses, I feel disconnected, and the hard part is that he loves me so much that the one time i tried to break up with him, he convinced me to let him stay. well, 3 weeks later i still want to break up i'm just nervous and feel guilty. he tells me i'm his soulmate and we are going to be together forever but I honestly dont feel that way. I feel bad because I once felt that way but I guess i've fallen out of love with him. how can i make the breakup and stay strong with my decision this time?
USMCHokie Posted April 21, 2010 Posted April 21, 2010 my boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year and we have lived together for 6 months. I know we made a mistake in moving in too early but we were 20 and 'in love' well, I think ive fallen out of love. I dont like his kisses, I feel disconnected, and the hard part is that he loves me so much that the one time i tried to break up with him, he convinced me to let him stay. You're much too young to know what love is beyond just the chemical warm fuzzies...people your age rush headfirst into relationships, stay in them for about 6 months to a year, and then "fall out of love"...because the chemical feelings had worn off and they crave that feeling of "new love" again...that is, they want some strange... well, 3 weeks later i still want to break up i'm just nervous and feel guilty. he tells me i'm his soulmate and we are going to be together forever but I honestly dont feel that way. I feel bad because I once felt that way but I guess i've fallen out of love with him. how can i make the breakup and stay strong with my decision this time? Tell him this straight up. Be honest and straightforward...that is the key...and once you've done this, go NC...don't let any guilt from him follow you...
Ilovecake Posted April 21, 2010 Posted April 21, 2010 If you're not feeling it you have to end this relationship or you are wasting your and your boyfriend's time and energy. One of my ex’s, when I was around your age and also living with him, tried to break up with me by being a jerk and hoping I would do the deed and it didn't work, later on he would just pick fights over ridiculous stuff and that didn't work. I didn't get it until he just came out and said "I don't love you anymore". Maybe that's what you need to do just be honest with him and tell him you don't have the same feelings for him that he does for you. Good luck.
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