mandolinman Posted April 21, 2010 Posted April 21, 2010 (edited) Hey guys, first post here so take it easy on me. About a month ago, my girlfriend and I broke up after dating for a year an a half. We are both in school: this upcoming year I will be a senior in college and she will be a junior. We both live in the same town now, but in the fall I'll be transferring to a larger school about 2 hours southeast of where I live now and she'll be transferring to another school about 45 minutes north of where I live now. A little background info: We both have a history of dating people long term. Both of our previous relationships had been our only relationships, and they both lasted 2 years before we eventually split with our ex's. I met her at a bank where she was working as a teller (I was getting change for the restaurant I worked at) and we started flirting and took it from there. So after dating 1 1/2 years, she tells me she wants to "live the single life" and "have the college experience." Not 3 months ago we were talking about getting married after my graduation in a year or so, and now since she decided to live in the dorms at the school she is moving to (45 mins away from here) it seems like everything has changed with her. Since we broke up (About a month ago) we talked about staying friends and having casual occasional hookups. We stayed friends for about a week or so after the breakup, but then she told me that she had begun "talking" to someone in a city about 3 hours who she had never met before (who I found out she recently visited on a school trip to this city) and of course this upset me. When we were dating, I never would have expected this out of her. I wrote her a letter about 2 weeks after the breakup trying to pick up the pieces and see if she had any interest in rekindling the flame we had, and she emailed me back basically saying that she wanted me to move on, and that if our paths cross in the future, then we will go from there. Since we broke up, I've made a promise to myself to lose weight I had been putting off for a few years. I'm 21, 6' 230 pounds (down from 240). This situation has given me the motivation to lose it, and so far I've lost 10 pounds of my 40 pound goal. I'm happier with the way I look, but it seems like it's all in vain if she's not here to appreciate the results with me. I'm pretty strung out over this if you can't tell, and not sure where to go from here. There's no doubt in my mind that I could happily spend the rest of my life with her. She was my best friend; we did everything together. She was my first true love (after realizing my first 2 year relationship wasn't really love at all.) She's the first girl I've really been intimate with, and same for her with me. Does anybody have anything to say about this situation? Sorry for the novel here. Thanks. Edited April 21, 2010 by mandolinman
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