TheDudeAbides Posted April 21, 2010 Posted April 21, 2010 Ok, ladies and gents, I need some advice. I'm 21, female, and new to the dating world. Prior to a month ago, I'd never been on a date or had any sort of romantic experience with a guy. Anyway, I met a guy on OKCupid. I initiated contact and we spoke through their messaging system almost daily for nearly two weeks. Our first meeting lasted about 5 hours, just talking and browsing at a book store and a quick bite to eat. Second date was a movie at an arthouse theater (we're film students ). Third "date" was an on-the-whim meet up for food at the mall and a walk around. And we're making plans for this weekend. All of these little dates were within a 2 1/2 week time frame. We've been having good conversations. We have a lot of eye contact, but there hasn't been much physical contact outside of hugging when we first see each other and after he walks me to my car or if I touch his arm. I'm wondering if the lack of initiation on his part is me... I told him I was a complete newbie at this and he was fine with that, but I think it might be making him extra cautious. And he's already a really calm/slightly aloof guy to start with, so he can be a bit hard to read. Oh, and also, I seem to be initiating most of the contact, but once I initiate, he's gung ho in the conversation. I guess my question is: How do I determine where this is going? It's kinda tricky because we both have on our profiles that we're open to platonic relationships, and although we flirt quite a bit (verbally), we never discussed whether we were pursuing a romantic relationship with one another. Do I just ask (is that really weird? lol)? Do I try to initiate more physical contact and gauge his reaction? Help! And thanks for any help in advance.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 21, 2010 Posted April 21, 2010 Well, are you attracted to him? If you are and the both of you are shy, I suggest you make the first moves. Not that you're in a rush, at the pace that you're both going I think it's perfectly normal especially since you're a newbie. If anything, progress with a goodbye kiss on the 4th date. Personally, I would have the " talk" by the 5th date or so or when I actually see potential dating someone long term.
TouchedByViolet Posted April 21, 2010 Posted April 21, 2010 Try initiating contact. Sounds like he is interested but a newbie.
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