Not sure what to think of this.

[nattylite415]

So I've been NC with my ex for about 9 months and we've been separated for around 10. The last thing I noticed(via facebook) since starting NC was that she was dating someone else. About that same time I deleted my fb account and just tried to push her out of my head. About 2 weeks ago she texted me wishing happy belated birthday and how i was doing and more recently talking on aim.

 

I know its probably just her being friendly since we dated for about 3 years, but just for sh*ts could it be anything else? I've been telling myself for a while I'm over her, but she always finds ways into dreams which leads to pretty crappy mornings.

 

Thanks for any suggestions/comments.

[yume]

Sucks to be dreaming about someone you really don't want to be doesn't it?

 

I think she's just being friendly...wants to get an update on your life since it has been almost a year since you guys split. Otherwise, would she have a reason to get back together with you? If you're not comfortable being friends with her, say so. Tell her you still need space and hopefully she'll respect that.

[TaraMaiden]

She's obvioualy 'over you' and thinks enough time has passed to be able to touch base and relegate you to the friend zone.

if you're not over her (and you clearly aren't or you wouldn't be here) then tell her.

"Please lay off contacting me. You may be over stuff, but I'm not there yet. have a great life."

 

Anything else, ignore and delete.

 

It really is that simple.

[confused and broken]

I have dreams about my ex frequently.... It is so intense in the mornings I don't want to get out of bed I just end up feeling like total crap

 

I think (by the sounds of it) she is just checking in on you...

If she really cared she would let you know

The friendly how are you stuff is not I want to get back together and try again it may even be I want to f*(k, but not I want to spend forever with you

I know it sucks