zetkin Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 some prehistory http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t227864/ so he wrote me again and I couldn't resist, I answered and we are communicating again. And he says he needs me, wants to see me and so on, he says he wants to come, and he also invites me too. I want to go, and I want him to come. But I am so confused - he has a girlfriend... What is he doing?
norajane Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 This guy sounds unstable. He's in love with you after a month of internet and email and whatnot, and now he's in love with another woman after a few days of meeting her, and now he's emailing you... Whatever. Seriously, this guy is not the man of your dreams. Why are you so hung up on him? He lives in another country, you aren't particularly attracted to him, the language barrier is a problem, and he falls "in love" as often as he changes his underwear. Do you really have nothing better going than to get sucked into this disaster?
Template Posted April 21, 2010 Posted April 21, 2010 He's playing you. Nobody gets played; however, people often allow themselves to be played. Many times we see the warning signs, but I guess that's why they say love it blind eh? Personally I say go for it, and good luck. If it works out, great. If not, just understand that you made the choice, and is willing to live and learn.
2sunny Posted April 21, 2010 Posted April 21, 2010 some prehistory http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t227864/ so he wrote me again and I couldn't resist, I answered and we are communicating again. And he says he needs me, wants to see me and so on, he says he wants to come, and he also invites me too. I want to go, and I want him to come. But I am so confused - he has a girlfriend... What is he doing? he's setting you up as his secret side dish... no man asks a gal to visit unless he intends to have sex with her. is being second choice and a man who will use you good enough for you?
Author zetkin Posted April 24, 2010 Author Posted April 24, 2010 Well, I just feel like this girlfriend, she doesn't really exist, he just made her up. Can that be possible? I mean we talk as often as we used to before "her", he sends me presents (come on, don't you have a girlfriend to spend your money on, why send present here?) and so on. He doesn't tell much about her and usually he tells as much details as possible (ok, may be he just doesn't feel comfortable talking to one girl about another, but all the same it's strange). And second, if he just wants to sleep with me - why would he tell me about the girlfriend? No man would ever tell a gal that he has a girlfriend/fiancé/wife/whatsoever, if he intends to have sex with her, right?
butterflysil Posted April 24, 2010 Posted April 24, 2010 he wants to see if you'll sleep with him while he has a girlfriend so he has an excuse not to commit.
Author zetkin Posted April 24, 2010 Author Posted April 24, 2010 he wants to see if you'll sleep with him while he has a girlfriend so he has an excuse not to commit. Mmm, but for not committing we already have an excuse - distance))) And it's kind of me - not willing to commit))))))))))) I just sometimes think he made her up to see my reaction... Can that be possible? I'm just not used to playing games, I am bad at understanding these games rules so I don't understand if this IS a game and what kind of game? Uhh
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