Author Lizzie60 Posted April 21, 2010 Author Posted April 21, 2010 I don't know what is so mystifying about the fact that any of your MM refuse to "let go." They know you're always open for business and won't get turned down. Oh.. but this one has been turned down many times... he just called out of the blue... like I said.. I even threw him out of my house... and threaten him to tell his W if he wouldn't leave..
Author Lizzie60 Posted April 21, 2010 Author Posted April 21, 2010 Its definetly not mystifying. Its like if I was a cheater I would periodicly call all the old women I cheated with. Lizzie ur a cool woman u deserve better then this. Why not enter a more traditional relationship? Thanks Green.. but I've been in 'traditiional relationships' most of my life... I prefer the 'non traditional'...
Green Posted April 21, 2010 Posted April 21, 2010 Thanks Green.. but I've been in 'traditiional relationships' most of my life... I prefer the 'non traditional'... Seriously though financialy doesn't it leave you in danger not to be married to the men?
Author Lizzie60 Posted April 21, 2010 Author Posted April 21, 2010 Seriously though financialy doesn't it leave you in danger not to be married to the men? huh? why would that be?
Green Posted April 21, 2010 Posted April 21, 2010 huh? why would that be? This post is about how some MM never let go... yet you guys did let go... and did you get any money or support to show for it? half his house? no...
donnamaybe Posted April 21, 2010 Posted April 21, 2010 Oh.. but this one has been turned down many times... he just called out of the blue... like I said.. I even threw him out of my house... and threaten him to tell his W if he wouldn't leave.. He must've done something pretty awful for you to throw his arse out.
Author Lizzie60 Posted April 21, 2010 Author Posted April 21, 2010 This post is about how some MM never let go... yet you guys did let go... and did you get any money or support to show for it? half his house? no... Nope.. that would be too much trouble..
Author Lizzie60 Posted April 21, 2010 Author Posted April 21, 2010 He must've done something pretty awful for you to throw his arse out. Yes and no... he's a young jerk.. as far as I'm concerned.. once I told him I didn't want to see him anymore.. he was still coming at my house at all times.. without calling first.. wouldn't leave.. he was an azz.. When I'm done and tired of them.. they GOT to leave.. or else I can get very p*ssed and do things they might be sorry for. Like my MM at work...he's getting a little jealous.. had a little fit this week when I had a long-time friend at my place.. I didn't go to work the next day.. and I got an email from MM... he was p*ssed... I have no patience for that kind of stuff.. and I told him.... he later apologized... He's now in Philadelphia for work.. and is texting me non stop... (I should say sexting me)... When you show men that you don't need them (independant).. they are at your knees.. work every single time...
donnamaybe Posted April 21, 2010 Posted April 21, 2010 Oh, wow. Yeah, that'd piss me off too. What a pathetic whiner. Who in the hell is he to get PO'd at anything you do in your personal life?! No wonder you don't want him around.
Author Lizzie60 Posted April 21, 2010 Author Posted April 21, 2010 Oh, wow. Yeah, that'd piss me off too. What a pathetic whiner. Who in the hell is he to get PO'd at anything you do in your personal life?! No wonder you don't want him around. Exactly...
Dexter Morgan Posted April 21, 2010 Posted April 21, 2010 Dexter was sarcastic and I replied to his sarcasm... no, it wasn't sarcasm at all.
Dexter Morgan Posted April 21, 2010 Posted April 21, 2010 I don't know what is so mystifying about the fact that any of your MM refuse to "let go." They know you're always open for business and won't get turned down. exactly, easy booty calls get frequent visits.
secretlady76 Posted April 21, 2010 Posted April 21, 2010 Many many men are not hard to pull. If you are offering yourself or if you have offered yourself in the past, they will contact you to see if you will offer yourself again. I doubt you are in as much control as you think you are. Also, the man that contacted you after 4 years???? How honoured would he be if he knew you had started a whole new thread just for him, like I said, I don't think you are in as much control as you think you are. If they all buggered off, you would be a bit gutted I think.
2sunny Posted April 21, 2010 Posted April 21, 2010 he wasn't calling to ay Hi... why do men think we buy that line... they call because they are reminiscing and remembering the good stuff. why wouldn't he just be honest and blatantly ask for the sex he wanted and called you for? that's what i don't get.
happygirl1234 Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 This post is about how some MM never let go... yet you guys did let go... and did you get any money or support to show for it? half his house? no... Just want to jump in to defend Lizzie here. She seems comfortable being the OW and the men she are with are comfortable with that, too. Yes, their Ws are being duped by their Hs, but this isn't Lizzie's responsibility, in my opinion. It is the Hs who are cheating and they would find someone, somehow. More importantly, what's with the getting money or support to "show for it"? Isn't that what prostitutes do? Women don't enter relationships with men to get money or support. They enter relationships for sex and companionship. You can get that with a MM or with a H or BF. So whatever works, works. Lots of people don't want to get married. As LS shows, many people who ARE married maybe should not be. At least give Lizzie credit for being honest about her own needs and wants.
jwi71 Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 More importantly, what's with the getting money or support to "show for it"? Isn't that what prostitutes do? Women don't enter relationships with men to get money or support. They enter relationships for sex and companionship. Lizzie is compensated for her time. You may not have known that happygirl. Though I don't support her lifestyle, it works for her. The only criticism I have is when she changes her avatar - now THAT'S annoying. I don't ever want to see that dumb flower again. I'll report you Lizzie...you know I will! And in my experience on these boards, Lizzie doesn't need any help defending herself.
donnamaybe Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 Lizzie is compensated for her time. "Time?" Is that the new euphemism for it now?
herenow Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 But she brags, pats herself on the back, and takes every opportunity to convey a smug attitude towards what she does, and tries oh so very hard to make sure we think she is a goddess. I said it before, I'll say it again. Women who are truly beautiful and sexy inside and out, don't have to constantly "brag" in order to prove it to others. They just are who they are, and everyone can see the beauty for themselves. Their lack of bragging makes them even more attractive, IMO. Same goes for men and women.
In_Repair Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 It's not just the married ones Lizzie, single men do that too. It's the whole "little black book" thing. You get a little lonely, then you break out the phone numbers and start catching up with old friends. Why are you guys jumping all over Lizzie? Isn't this the OM/OW section? Almost all of the threads here are started by people who are basically doing the same thing she is. So she gets "compensated"... in most OW's minds, they get "compensated" when the MM leaves his family for them... which is worse?
happygirl1234 Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 Lizzie is compensated for her time. You may not have known that happygirl. Though I don't support her lifestyle, it works for her. The only criticism I have is when she changes her avatar - now THAT'S annoying. I don't ever want to see that dumb flower again. I'll report you Lizzie...you know I will! And in my experience on these boards, Lizzie doesn't need any help defending herself. JWI, No I didn't know that Lizzie is "compensated" (I assume monetarily) for her time. But I don't think that changes anything in my opinion. I guess it's just a business transaction for her. And it's the oldest transaction in the world. So again, if she's satisfied and her companions are as well, so be it. In some sense, isn't this kind of compensated OW actually BETTER than the kind of OW who expects to be compensated with love/emotion/leaving the wife, etc? Isn't it LESS threatening to the marriage and maybe, in some sense, morally more defensible? Just curious what folks think about that...
bananalaffytaffy Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 Morally defensible? Not on the planet I live on. Not that Lizzie cares about that anyway.
Author Lizzie60 Posted April 23, 2010 Author Posted April 23, 2010 JWI, No I didn't know that Lizzie is "compensated" (I assume monetarily) for her time. But I don't think that changes anything in my opinion. I guess it's just a business transaction for her. And it's the oldest transaction in the world. So again, if she's satisfied and her companions are as well, so be it. In some sense, isn't this kind of compensated OW actually BETTER than the kind of OW who expects to be compensated with love/emotion/leaving the wife, etc? Isn't it LESS threatening to the marriage and maybe, in some sense, morally more defensible? Just curious what folks think about that... Not with all my MMs... some have nooo idea what my lifestyle is (masseuse, escort). Compensation: why not... some women are miserable with men most of their life..... and don't even have the benefit$ ... crap... that's even worst.. At least.. my MMs know the rules.. no commitment.. I don't want them out of their family... I keep them happy.. and in return.. they keep their W and kids happy... it's a win-win situation... IMO
2sure Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 Everyone single person involved with a married affair partner is compensated in some way. The compensation is to balance what you are not getting, to cover the inconvenience, or to be appreciative. Some people feel perfectly compensated by being told a bunch of complimentary things , with words alone. Some people feel compensation should come in the form of being taken care of in some way. Like the rent paid or a car. Others feel good sex is a good enough exchange. What one takes as compensation just depends on what you feel you are worth. I would tell any single woman involved with a MM - YOU are the commodity, you are making a grand and rare gesture ...he should appreciate it.
herenow Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 Well if Lizzie is a prostitute, then that is a whole other ball game. But, we have danced around that issue without clarification. So, to make it clear I will ask the question. Lizzie, are you a prostitute? To be clear on my views, I believe women have the right to do what they want with their bodies. I have no issue with a business transaction between two consenting adults. But, if Lizzie is a prostitute, then the situation is quite different than a woman who has an affair with a MM. A MM who sees a prostitute is still cheating on his wife. But, an OW who gets involved with a MM and isn't a prositutue is in a very different place. I don't see how Lizzie's "transactions" compare to most OW here on LS. She isn't emotionally involved and most likely won't get hurt. Most OW here have an emotional attachment to the MM they are having an affair with. It is not a "transaction", it is much more than that. I don't think prostitutes (and we still don't know if that is what Lizzie is) are less threatening to the marriage. I also don't think prostitutes compare to an OW who does have some real emotional attachment to a MM. Like I said, different ball game. So, before I continue, I will wait for clarification from Lizzie.
Author Lizzie60 Posted April 23, 2010 Author Posted April 23, 2010 Herenow.. I will get back to you later with a clarification... it's not that simple.. my life is a little more complicated than that..
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