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Hi there!

I've been doing the online dating thing for the last two months and results have been quite negative (meaning not getting second dates)

I was in a relationship for a long time, and after that single for a long time putting myself together. Getting back to the dating scene it's been a bit frustating since it seems I don't understand quite well the rules of the game...

 

This is about my last date and I would appreciate some input on it:

On Friday, I had a first date with this cool guy. Before that, we were emailing/texting/talking for about three weeks before we decided to meet. He took me out for dinner: we had fun, we talked, we laughed a lot...This guy seems to be the shy kind (he actually said so a couple of times when narrating me some of his personal stories) though talked a lot and seemed to be very comfortable (he actually had told me in one of our long phone conversations that he normally doesn't talk that much and needs to feel comfortable with someone) I definitely was. When we said godbye, I gave him a kiss in his cheek and he asked me to let him know that i got home sound and safe. I text him saying so once I got home and he replied with a "OK :). I had a good time tonight". I answered saying "I had a nice time too".

Three days after (yesterday) nothing from him, so I decided to send him a txt message joking about something we talked about during dinner, and asking him how his Monday was going. He texted back almost immediately laughing at and commenting my joke and telling me "good how about yours". I replied to him saying something like the day was good and so, and so. And that was the end of the communication since he didn't replied.

I know I might be acting a bit impatient; I don't know if I should wait and give him time to contact me or just see all this as the behaviour of someone who's not interested and move on...

Also, I'm very tempted to write the guy asking him what went wrong...should I do that?

Thanks.

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Who initiated the date first? Who said lets go to dinner? Normally I would say If he was interested he would make plans with you. You could text him to try to make plans but be prepared for him to find an excuse not to go. You can try to ask him what went wrong, but be prepared for him not to tell you the real reason. Most people are cowards in this regard.

 

If you asked him out first he might be waiting for you to make a suggestion. If your last text to him wasnt a question, he had no reason to respond. And dont text him anymore, use the phone so you dont have to guess.

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