amythan Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Hi, This is really wrong at many levels and i know that ... it seems harmless but nothing it is at the end. I cannot hide i like him and i thought he likes me too. We do not live in the same country and everything is confusing with this this way of communication - we mainly chat and email each other. You can never be sure if the other person is serious, smiling, annoyed or just bored. Last time we saw each other we went out and we were laughing during hours, he was smiling and i felt there is chemistry between us. Now he is back at home and i start to feel stupid and to think that perhaps i misunderstood everything ... I do not know how he behaves with other girls so perhaps he consider me just a friend .... He is contacting me so it is not like i am chasing him. He is playful calling me silly all the time, he says i am pretty, the cutest, sweet and blah blah blah but today i got the feeling that he was fed up ...but i cannot know the reason !! It could be work related, or he was tired, or many things .. but i am playing cool, just no asking, no demanding ... specially because i do not want to show any pressure if he does not feel the same. I do not know how to explain but i felt like he thinks i like him and he wanted to step back. But i do not know !!!!!!!!!!!!! This sounds all very childish but actually it is very complicated and i am very confused. I do not know why he would be telling me all this stuff if he does not like me, but this time i cannot read this wrong. What should i do ?? Thanks for your comments !!
zebracolors Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Really ask yourself how well do you know him. If you are having even the slightest doubts that he is really very interested, then a long distance relationship may not be fore you. Communication is vital in a relationship like that, as is trust. And emotions can be lost in the text. You have to be certain he wants the same thing as you, the same level of commitment, and not just saying things because he thinks its what you want to hear. You're right not to put any pressure on him, but if after some more time of getting to know him, you decide that you want a committed relationship, that you like him that much, don't wait forever for him to decide if he wants the same thing or not.
Author amythan Posted April 20, 2010 Author Posted April 20, 2010 (edited) Well i know a long distance relationship is very difficult but my problem here is that i do not know what he wants ! I do not know why he contacts me, is he just bored and wants someone to talk to ? Does he say to every girl the same cute things ??? Do any of this things mean something or it is just a ego boost ? I am sure i do not behave this way with other guys but reality is that i do not know him that well ... I cannot get this wrong because we work together for a very small company where relationships are forbidden ... if i do a faux pas i will put myself in very bad position. And I really love my job. This is a very competitive field where i have the reputation of being good at. I am a distant person and work and even him told me that he could never imagine i am so sweet. Do not make a fool of myself is a big concern to me. But if he likes me, i would take the risk because he makes me smile :) Edited April 20, 2010 by amythan
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