gb2222 Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 I am not necessarily talking "looks" but what is it that women notice about men that really stand out and make them say "I want that guy"
tkgirl Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 I am not necessarily talking "looks" but what is it that women notice about men that really stand out and make them say "I want that guy" simple... confidence! 1
tkgirl Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 A fat, shiny wallet. sad truth character limit oh no... this isn't going to turn into one of those.. "ALL women want someone rich.. or tall.. or fit... or whatever I'm not" threads... if so please read my answer again!
Rorschach Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 oh no... this isn't going to turn into one of those.. "ALL women want someone rich.. or tall.. or fit... or whatever I'm not" threads... if so please read my answer again! oh no, I wouldn't say all women, not by any stretch. And certainly none of the women I'm looking for, but there is a serious following of women who definitely notice the size of a mans bankroll and weigh that into their decisions.
phineas Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 simple... confidence! What gives you the impression of confidence? If you are meeting a guy for the first time how does he show confidence?
bananaboat11 Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 What gives you the impression of confidence? If you are meeting a guy for the first time how does he show confidence? How he 'carries' himself. His posture... his walk... his ability to look an individual in the eyes... confidence in his voice and the ability to be articulate when relaxed or under fire... and a smile on his face. I used to be that guy. key word/s... used to be 1
USMCHokie Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 How he 'carries' himself. His posture... his walk... his ability to look an individual in the eyes... confidence in his voice and the ability to be articulate when relaxed or under fire... and a smile on his face. Hey, I am this guy. But so are you. So stop whining.
bananaboat11 Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Hey, I am this guy. But so are you. So stop whining. I beg your pardon? 1
carhill Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 A suggestion: sit back and let the women offer their perspective. No need to interject. If life and marriage has taught me one thing, it's that there's no way in hell I can read a woman's mind. The best way to gain an understanding, IMO, is to listen.
bananaboat11 Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 A suggestion: sit back and let the women offer their perspective. No need to interject. If life and marriage has taught me one thing, it's that there's no way in hell I can read a woman's mind. The best way to gain an understanding, IMO, is to listen. I'm friends with a lot of females... most of them are very, very attractive (you can ask USMCHokie... heh) and a good portion of them are in academia. I've listened for awhile... I've had my fair share of them jump me. When it comes to women.. I know nothing. I can't even find the balls to approach them and introduce myself.... heh I like my perspective.
phineas Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 oh no, I wouldn't say all women, not by any stretch. And certainly none of the women I'm looking for, but there is a serious following of women who definitely notice the size of a mans bankroll and weigh that into their decisions. I'm 38 & I seem to meet quite a bit of mid-30's party girls with no education & no prospects for anything more than an office job that apparantly spend all their free money shopping for expensive clothes & live paycheck to paycheck. They rent & have zero responcibilities or obligations. I've got a mortgage & child support. I don't want to be a suger daddy & I sure don't want a LTR with someone that can't cover their half of living expenses should I ever decide to move in with them.
Twenty-ten Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 How he 'carries' himself. His posture... his walk... his ability to look an individual in the eyes... confidence in his voice and the ability to be articulate when relaxed or under fire... and a smile on his face. Spot on. Add to that his quick wit and banter. I also look for telltale signs on how down to earth he is. Does he engage people when he talks or is he all fluff, ie. does he listen and interact in a reciprocal manner or does he just like to be the center of attention and is only after an ego stroke.
annxxdisaster Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 If the bands 'The Mars Volta' or 'At the Drive-In' mean anything positive to him. But I think a lot of people mentioned what would be on my list. The way he's carrying himself, quick wit, and what's really important for me is if he understands and appreciates sarcasm. A lot of my humor is sarcastic I can dish it out, take it, and make fun of myself so it's crucial that they are too...to varying degrees.
Mutant Debutante Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 (edited) Like others have said, the way he carries himself and his wit are big. Also for me I tend to like creative guys, somebody who has that spark of imagination and that drive. Most of my bfs have been artists or writers of some kind, even if they had other interests or jobs that paid the bills, but it could be building things, too, just the spark of creation maybe. And he has to have a kindness, too; like he has to be good with kids and animals, be responsible around them, or he's nexted quick. Show me a reasonably attractive guy with a quick wry humor and a good imagination who's good with his hands, knows a little something about the world and likes kids and pets and I'm usually interested in getting to know him a lot better. Edited April 20, 2010 by Mutant Debutante
aerogurl87 Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Sarcasm, I love sarcastic guys, lol. Oh and if a guy can appreciate the band Brand New, then that definitely catches my attention.
txsilkysmoothe Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 I'm interpreting the question to mean observation of a man before you meet him...... The way he - stands walks smiles dresses speaks - intelligent, articulate speaks - the sound of his voice laughs displays manners (opens a door for someone, says please and thank you, etc.) Dealbreakers - smoking, potty mouth, conceited, rude behavior.
Rorschach Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 speaks - the sound of his voice This one makes me curious, I hate the sound of my voice but there isn't a whole lot I can do about it. What exactly is it that makes somebodies voice pleasing/not pleasing and how important is it?
aerogurl87 Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 I agree txsilkysmoothe, the sound of a man's voice can be a deal breaker for me (as sad as that may be). All my boyfriends have had sexy voices. Not too deep, but not too high, just perfect. Scent is also a big one for me. I love a man who smells good, and if his cologne mixed with the slight scent of his sweat smells good that is an extra bonus. Also any man with any overly feminine qualities is a turn off for me.
Mutant Debutante Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 I do like accents. Not all accents, but there are many that are a big plus. The voice itself is usually neutral, unless it stands out in some big way, then it could be good or bad. Generally deeper is better, a man with a squeaky high voice is not too sexy. Both rough or smooth voices can be sexy, depending on how they fit the guy, I guess. Oh and if he's wearing a kilt and he has cute legs that's a plus too.
zebracolors Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 This one makes me curious, I hate the sound of my voice but there isn't a whole lot I can do about it. What exactly is it that makes somebodies voice pleasing/not pleasing and how important is it? For a man, I think a good description of it would be if his voice is noticeably masculine? Admittedly that does appeal to me too but its not required. After all, for the previous LDR I was in, with the British man I met on my game, it had been his voice which was the first thing I heard and thought it was sexy, even before seeing what he looked like.
txsilkysmoothe Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Yes, the sound of a man's voice can increase his attractiveness - masculine, not necessarily deep, volume isn't too loud or too soft, a soothing tone.
Engadget Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 This is a question that could have a thousand answers. Had a girl stare into my eyes today, guessing that's what she noticed. The next girl could look at my ass, arms, chest, face, etc.
wien7777 Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Personality-wise: Wit. Intelligence combined a sense of humour, and mischief. But emphasis on politeness and courageousness. Women may not be delicate otherworldly creatures who can't hear the words "dick" or "balls", but one should obey the set boundaries when not yet completely familiar/comfortable with another person. Physical appearance: Nice hands and a good voice. Take my word for it. And bonus tip to any male: just wear a white shirt. Dress shirt, t-shirt, sweater- whatever it may be, just know that every man looks his absolute best in a white shirt.
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