collegemommy Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 I wrote a post a couple of days ago about wondering if a second chance was possible when my ex has a girlfriend (rebound). In case you didn't read the last post, I was engaged to a guy that I have been friends since we were just little kids. We were together for 5 years and split up about 3 weeks ago. About a week after, he had a new girlfriend. Well, as of yesterday, he basically told her to leave him alone. That he was done with her because there was just too much drama with her already. They were arguing everyday apparently and every arguement led to her throwing him out. She ended up reading some texts that were sent between my ex and I. Texts that discussed the fact that we had sex on Sunday. So she kicked him out (they are not living together, he is staying between her house and his grandmother's until he moves into his new place Saturday). Well, last night he came over to my house. He looked exhausted and I asked him to stay the night with me. He agreed. We ended up having sex (twice) last night. We talked about working things out. We talked about the things that need to be worked on and how we are are going to accomplish this. Everything was great and I felt overwhelming happiness. So this morning is not going so well. The two of them work together and I am seriously worried that maybe they just had a fight and will try to work things out. I mean, she apparently called him last night and told him that she missed him and wanted him to come back. He told her no but maybe he finds her more appealing than me and wants to work things out with her. I sent him a text that said "I feel anxious with the two of you working together. I'm worried you may want to fix things with her..." To which he replied, "stop." I don't know what that means. Stop worrying about it because there isn't anything to worry about or stop texting me? I talk to him everyday via text and he has never told me to stop texting. He may not answer if he is busy but never tells me to "stop." I don't want to nag him about what he means since he is at work but I'm so completely anxious. Ugh. I am such a freaking wreck. I'm so worried that I think if I don't text him at least a few times a day, he will forget about me. I also feel like I'm pressuring him into working things out. Although, last night he was talking about how we need to buy a bigger house and that he wants to have another baby with me someday soon. I guess my issue is that I just don't know where I fit with him... Sorry, I just needed to vent.
Template Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 You want the simple truth from a guy. Here it is... you are nothing but a warm hole to him. I'll be honest, if you were giving it up to me, and I can get it from somewhere else as well, why would I commit to just one person. You've slept with him knowing full well he had a girlfriend, obviously you don't think highly of the sanctity of a relationship, and neither does he. Hey, I'm not here to judge, and if you all want to get freaky deeky to satisfy your carnal needs, well hell, where can I get one of those relationships. BUT, if you're looking for a commitment, this is probably not the guy to do it with, DEFINITELY not at this time.
Author collegemommy Posted April 20, 2010 Author Posted April 20, 2010 You're absolutely right. Why would he give up having sex with two attractive women? I'm sure if I were a guy, this would be great. It's not that I don't think higly of the sanctity of a relationship, I just don't think highly of a rebound relationship. If I thought he were serious with her (which he obviously isn't), I wouldn't interfere with them. I just know him and she is definitely not what he would settle down with. I think my problem is that I lost sight of who I am. When I first started dating him, I was a hottie and I knew it. After awhile, he broke me. I feel insecure and nervous all the time. This is insane! I'm getting the old me back and stop this nonsense...
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