dazed1989 Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 My girlfriend of almost 8 months seems a bit off lately. Any time I go to kiss her, 80% of the time or more she will turn her mouth into a fish shape or curl her lips up instead of giving me a normal kiss. Even when I'm trying to get her in the mood to get intimate, she does this. It's quite a turn off and is frustrating, but maybe I just need to lighten up? Is this a sign that she's lost interest in me if she doesn't want to kiss me normally? I realize this is a stupid question but I've never experienced anything like this before this frequent.
Rorschach Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 maybe your breath stinks? my X had terribad breath sometimes that made me not want to kiss her (her overall hygiene wasn't much better). I actually had to convince her to start regularly using mouthwash so I wouldn't gag
Author dazed1989 Posted April 20, 2010 Author Posted April 20, 2010 Hmm yeah that seems logical, but I chew gum and use scope/listerine and she always used to regard me as a good kisser with good breath so I'm not so sure it's that.
123BeachFan Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Is anything else amiss in the relationship? Did you recently get into a fight? Or, are you seeing other signs she's pulling away (not as available to talk on the phone, not as much hand holding, looking more away and less into your eyes when you are engaged in a heavy conversation, etc)? She could have issues with her breath. Or self conscious suddenly about hers.
Author dazed1989 Posted April 20, 2010 Author Posted April 20, 2010 We do get in fights and that's why I'm wondering if this is a sign. The thing is though in 8 months together we've only ever fought over one thing: sex. We had trouble finding a position that worked best for me and recently we have found it, but there are times when I can't get in the mood for her 5 minute random quickies where she phones me up just to have sex (I don't know what it is, but I never perform well under pressure or strict time frames when it comes to sex). So basically she loses her mind over this regardless of everything else being great. This leads to her being quite hostile for days afterwards. Even when we have sex a couple of times a week she still complains on the days where I'm not in the mood. It's a pain seeing someone you love be all over you one day and then have things suddenly change over this stuff. However despite this she still talks about our future together (me going to visit her while she's away for 5 weeks) and she still shows jealousy from time to time with regards to other girls. I'm just not sure what to think or do.
123BeachFan Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Okay, OP...based on your last post, I'm going to say that the sex issue is the bigger issue here. Fix the sex and the distant kissing issue will be fixed as well. You're saying that you can't perform in a quickie for her and that she's mad for days afterwards. Does that mean that she wanted a quickie, you didn't reciprocate, and you two didn't have sex for the few days afterwards (the period of time she was mad)? You might want to "take care of her needs" during her quickie request while not tending to yours. Maybe she wants sex more frequently than you do. That's not a problem, so long as you take a generous, giving approach to it.
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