lovemenace Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 maybe an exageration, maybe not. there was this girl in high school who i crushed over, we were friends in high school. not to close. however i wanted to ask her to prom so badly, all year, but ofcourse at the time i was to afraid of rejection. i was always nervous around her, i graduated 9 years ago and have seen her twice since highschool. one time we talked the other was brief. 2 nights ago i saw her at the store near my house. she has just moved back in town, im thinking because a failed relationship, the impression i got. anyway i got her number and we txtd briefly that night. i helped her find brownies at the store, and simply txtd her that i hope she enjoys them. after about 3 txts i just asked her what shes been up to since she moved back. she hasnt replied. im for sure wanting to start up a conversation with her so i can ask her out for lunch, whatever. it may sound really crazy, because it does to me, but until last night i didnt truly believe in fate. the thing is i just got out of a relationship about a month ago and have been pretty stuck on my ex. just realizing that one extra red light or leaving 1 minute earlier/later would have been the difference in seeing my high school crush has me wonder. is there a reason... just want others opinions on how theyd approach this.
boogieboy Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 If she didnt reply to you, its because shes not interested in continuing the conversation with you. You could try again, but you will get the same result. At some point you will have to forget about her.
carhill Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 This is what I don't get.... you like her; you have her phone number, since you 'text' her. Why didn't you just call (use the 'phone' feature) and ask her out?
boogieboy Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 This is what I don't get.... you like her; you have her phone number, since you 'text' her. Why didn't you just call (use the 'phone' feature) and ask her out? I'd like to know that answer too. What gives?
Author lovemenace Posted April 20, 2010 Author Posted April 20, 2010 i dont believe its cut and dry as shes not interested in you. there are hundreds of factors that could be causing her not to reply, it could be that she isnt. i had planned to just call her maybe thur. or fri. and ask her to do something. i only txtd her to tell her to enjoy her brownies, and she replied immediatly. i didnt intend to call and ask her out immediatly after seeing her. im just curious on others inputs on how theyd approach this.
carhill Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Approach.... she gave you her number. Call her and ask her out. Today. How's that?
In-The-Wheat Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 I totally believe in fate, and this situation is great - why not go for it?... you just gotta man up and give her a call. I'd wait a couple days, and then just ring her (actually call and speak) and ask her out to lunch/coffee something light & innocent to start out with. Then go from there after feeling it out. But I am digging this fate thing. Thats how I met my dream girl that I dated for awhile (still in love w/her), but she broke it off and now I'm just going no contact. Basically my ID got turned down at one bar, so we decided let's just try out the new one that just opened up. Met the bar tender (her), didn't think much of it other than she was incredibly gorgeous and friendly. Next night my friends and I go out again, and decided to hit that bar up for sh*ts... and what do you know - she walks in with some friends and makes a bee line straight to me & we end up talking the rest of the night, took her to dinner that weekend, fell in love - unfortunately she broke up with me, but one day I believe we'll get back together. So, no more texting - just call, be kind and see if she wants to catch up. If she says no b/c she's busy then forget it... But if she says no, and offers another time - you're in. Good luck man!
Green Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 First off... why are you waiting so long to ask her out. You should have just asked her out in person and the she would have given you her number after saying yes. I say you just call her tommorow afternoon and ask her out to coffee or what ever for a chat. If you are not free tomorrow, then call her now for coffee and a chat, turn it into dinner if things go well.
on edge Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 She may not have a phone with a qwerty keyboard, and it could be a pain in the ass to respond to text messages. She gave you her number, so she is probably interested in hanging out. Call her. If she doesn't pick up, leave a message. But only call her once and wait for her to respond.
boogieboy Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 (edited) i helped her find brownies at the store, and simply txtd her that i hope she enjoys them. after about 3 txts i just asked her what shes been up to since she moved back. she hasnt replied. . This is what is cut and dry. This is the point when she decided that she wasnt interested in talking to you anymore. She didnt say she couldnt talk, or "ill ttyl" or call me later, she ignored you. It takes 1 second to type "call me later". She's not interested enough to do that. if you're going to contact her, you have to call her to try to ask her out. But remember this...if she hems and haws about it, or you never get to actually SPEAK to her, you will have to accept that she isnt interested. Anything that isnt a yes is a no. And why didnt you call her instead of texting her? Edited April 20, 2010 by boogieboy
Author lovemenace Posted April 20, 2010 Author Posted April 20, 2010 Im just going to call after work today. it was never that i was scared to talk on the phone, i just thought texting would be easier initially for her. she was slightly reluctant to give her number, it appeared she just got out of relationship and that was the reason she moved back, thats purely an assumption based on her manurisms and words. best of luck you to in-the-wheat. i think thats an awesome story.
Green Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Im just going to call after work today. it was never that i was scared to talk on the phone, i just thought texting would be easier initially for her. she was slightly reluctant to give her number, it appeared she just got out of relationship and that was the reason she moved back, thats purely an assumption based on her manurisms and words. best of luck you to in-the-wheat. i think thats an awesome story. I don't know how many women you have been out with but if you havn't noticed women will be slightly reluctant at the darndest times. Like you might be having a great night and then they will seem reluctant to kiss... you just have to push foward and kiss anyways. Be bold, don't say things unless they are going to make her laugh or push things foward. The fluff talk throug txting was a bad idea. Also, look back on this relationship as fate a month or two from now when it is working out great. Right now you need to just enjoy this and not put to much pressure on yourself by questioning if its fate or if she is the girl of your dreams. Have the plenty of the fish in the sea mentality for now and keep flirting with girls and asking girls out and forgeting about your ex. I'm glad to hear you will call her today. Ask her out for today. Don't call her today and ask her out for friday or something. make sure when you call you are asking her out for tonight or what ever. Try to get her having coffee with you around 6 or 7 depending on when she is free. Then lay on the charm, have fun, kiss her even.
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