spookie Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 i apologize for the plethora of threads ive started recently regarding my seesawing feelings for this guy. furthermore, i apologize for the poor grammar and punctuation - the only internet connection that i have at home, is through my phone. anyway, i would like help figuring out if this is going anywhere, and if i should end it. a simple vote yay or nay on both counts would be appreciated. if you can give me an argument one way or the other, even better. i am legitimately confused. background info: -have been seeing each other about five months, roughly two - three times a week, thru a combo of legit dates and fwb types activities (barhops and sleepovers) -exclusive as of when we started sleeping together, which was almost immediately -good chemistry, solid friendship, but no talk of feelings whatsoever -i have met both sides of his family, and get invited to all fam. events (easter, weddings) -when i asked if we were in a relationship, he dodged the question my background: -devastating relationship almost three years ago, after which i've dated here and there but essentially stayed single -in love with my boss, whom i can neither get over due to having to see him every day, nor date due to workplace policy and/or his lack of interest his background: -serial monogamist since high school -i unintentionally stole him from his last gf, with whom hed been together for 4 years we have fun together, but when were apart, im distinctly aware of the fact that were not in love. i havent been able to open up to him (then again, i havent been able to open up to anyone since my last serious r ended) and i dont feel comfortable reaching out to him for emotional support, largely because i dont believe he is interested in providing it to me. however, there are also some indicators that its going well... so vote
shadowplay Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 I would break up. You guys don't really have a relationship. He's just sort of somebody to keep around to stave off loneliness. This whatever it is isn't making you fulfilled and is also getting in the way of you finding a meaningful relationship. Please don't stay with him out of inertia. I've made that mistake many times and lived to regret it.
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