ilikegirls Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 weve known this girl for like 2years now, and had a crush on her ever since we have been really close for about a year maybe a bit longer and we started officially dating for about 4 months now i feel like ive known her my whole life, we are like a perfect match for eachother. i always tell her how much she means to me, and how much i "like" her. but that like is turning into love. we either use "like" "<3" "heart" ..and that all good, but none of those things represent how i actually feel. ive told her that we need to find another word instead of using "like" she agreed, she told me she felt this too, but was waiting for me.. (idk if that means waiting for me to say "i love you" first) anyways whenever we are together cuddling or w/e i want to say it, but im scared and nervous i dont want her to think its too early and get creeped out.. or i dont want it to be awkward if she doesn't feel it too
Rorschach Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Best way to get acclimated to the waters temperature is to jump head first into the deep end.
123BeachFan Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Yep, she's telling you that you have to say I Love You first...and at 4 months and if you really feel it, it's not too early.
Author ilikegirls Posted April 20, 2010 Author Posted April 20, 2010 why do i have to say it first? im soo scared saying it... what if she gets weirded out, or doesnt say it back?
eraser Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 what if she gets weirded out, or doesnt say it back? She feels the same way. She just wants you to take the lead.
Agent Thomas Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 My gf said it to me after like 3 weeks lol I told her it was lust or infatuation not love. But soon after I realized I loved her too. We've said it ever since
nothappyjan Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Just say it buddy!!!! Otherwise u will both be waiting for each other to say it forever:p
carhill Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 OP, you know, some folks say 'I do' more quickly, so spill it already. You're not going to die.
123BeachFan Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Well, she agrees that there has to be another way to say "I really, really really, really like you a whole bunch." And she says she wants you to come up with the (three word) way to say it. I'm thinking, she's 100% on board with you, but you just gotta step up to the plate and say it! Go for it
Jambalaya Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Just say it and say it clear. Don't do what I did - say it too quietly to be heard. Not realise it. Then blow up a month later in an argument that I said it, he didn't hear it and I didn't get a response and that he was only saying back it because I was angry at him *slaps self* I waited for ages and one day I couldn't hold it in anymore.
BubbleFreak Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 My boyfriend said "I love you" to me three weeks after we met, and one week after we had officially started going out. I don't remember what I said after that but I remember being surprised but impressed he said it, I didn't think anything bad of it being said so soon. It's been over four years since and we still have a wonderful relationship. So yes, just tell her!
EthanH Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 why rush it? I know you say you feel ready to say it, but the fact you have not shows you are still not unsure. I have been in your position, I said it and while I meant it, in many ways I wish i had been 100% confident to say it. I will tell you one thing I have learned, there is nothing better than telling someone you love them where you know you mean it, but you don't plan on saying it. In a moment or something. I said it to my ex and when I said it, i felt such a buzz. I had thought about it before, but never got to it, and then when I said it, we were both so overcome with emotion that it was really special. Saying those three words is sometimes overblown in importance, but it is still important. The mistake I have made in relationships is that I have said things too quickly, and thus run out of amazing things to say. Don't use it up yet...wait for the right moment so that it is really special for both of you...Also girls have such a strong romantic view of things, she will probably have thought about it a lot more than you, so you need to make sure you get the moment right... i don't mean a fake thing with flowers and candle-light... it could be at any time, but do it when the moment seems right... good luck!
Author ilikegirls Posted April 20, 2010 Author Posted April 20, 2010 I went over her house and we were cuddling and stuff. We were talking about how I couldent say "like" anymore... than I said "I think it's love" and she said kindingly "you think, you don't know!" then that was the end, and the subject changed before I could say anything. Later in he day I told her "I love you", but it came out so quite and awkward, I don't think she heard me.. I'm so nervous, those 3 words are so hard to say.. I see some people say it like it's nothing, why is it so hard for me?
carhill Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 why is it so hard for me? Who knows? Loss of power; loss of control; fear of rejection are some potentials which come to mind. The feelings which impel the words could be overwhelming for you. Think about it. You're with someone who accepts and values who you are. Pretty safe place, eh?
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