spookie Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 My guy asked me to his cousin's wedding this weekend. I have never met the people getting married. Am I supposed to bring a gift? Is there anything else I should about weddings, or being someone's date at a large hillbilly family affair, for that matter? I'm a rookie at this. The only wedding I have ever been to was a co-worker's, which was a blast up until I blacked out, dissolving into tears and throwing fit regarding my own spinster status.
D-Lish Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Your guy invited you to the wedding, it's his responsibility to pay for you. I have invited dates to weddings, and I give the gift to my friends/family.
laRubiaBonita Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 basically you are there for your guy- you just look pretty and make him look good otherwise it's his gig- he gets a gift, he drives, he pays(if need be), etc....
Trimmer Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Is there anything else I should about weddings, or being someone's date at a large hillbilly family affair, for that matter? Yeah... Don't do this: ...I blacked out, dissolving into tears and throwing fit regarding my own spinster status.
make me believe Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 You don't have to bring a gift. Your guy can include your name on the card if you both want, but it doesn't really matter. Just show up, look pretty, and be nice & charming to his family
Author spookie Posted April 21, 2010 Author Posted April 21, 2010 Is it bad form to have The Talk that ends everything the night before the wedding, thereby leaving him dateless when i said i would go? I am 100% certain that at this point i'm just stalling, and I don't want to go if we're gonna break up.
laRubiaBonita Posted April 21, 2010 Posted April 21, 2010 Is it bad form to have The Talk that ends everything the night before the wedding, thereby leaving him dateless when i said i would go? I am 100% certain that at this point i'm just stalling, and I don't want to go if we're gonna break up. it' could be bad form- but at the same time.... stalling can be bad form too. when is the wedding? can you just tell him now (assuming the day is not tmw.)? otherwise go and just think of it as free food and drink- maybe a post wedding hookup (if you want) and then - THE END but at the same time- why go and meet family and friends and then be that bitch that free loaded at the wedding, only to dump dude the next day? your call, as you know the circumstances and him best.
Knittress Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 I suppose it depends on how sensitive you are - who cares if you're known 'as the freeloading bitch' if you're never going to see these people again? (though according to romantic comedies being someone's date to a wedding seems like it's some sort of favor...) On the other hand, is it gonna be too uncomfortable meeting his mom and thinking "Yeah, Hi! Nice to meet you, but I'm gonna dump your son tomorrow!" ?
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