In this day and age should you let love find you or should you look for love?

[princesasabia]

I will be turning 25 this summer and I have never been in love and haven't met a decent guy in almost 5 years. I dont even go to bars and clubs to find guys. I havent had a date in over 2 years. I do want to eventually settle down and get married. Im not sure I want kids or not, but I dont mind if I dont have kids.

[BobSacamento]

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[aerogurl87]

Lol, Bob that's mean.

 

But I say screw letting find love find you, sometimes you have to be proactive about things and that means going after what you want. I fell head over heels in love with my ex and I wanted to feel that way again with someone who actually deserved it. At first I thought about sitting around and hoping to just randomly run into some awesome guy out there, but I'm not one to wait so I decided to take matters into my own hands. And one year later after I first met my ex, I met someone new who is awesome and that I'm falling in love with. I met him on a social networking/dating site. Then in my profile on there, I was very specific, and maybe a little blunt, about what I was looking for. No one night stands, no flings, no FWBs, just someone who was looking for a potential serious LTR. And that's how I got my awesome boyfriend.

[phineas]

You let me know what love looks like & i'm sure I can find it. LOL!

seriously, you have to actually go out & meet people.

Sometimes LOTS of people before you find someone you click with.

[janie423]

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I agree, mean

Edited April 20, 2010 by janie423

[123BeachFan]

Looking for love is like making friends. You have to put yourself out there, you have to take some risks to meet new people. But the payoff is worth it.

 

But love won't find you if you're tucked away and in hiding.

[xRJ85x]

I will be turning 25 this summer and I have never been in love and haven't met a decent guy in almost 5 years. I dont even go to bars and clubs to find guys. I havent had a date in over 2 years. I do want to eventually settle down and get married. Im not sure I want kids or not, but I dont mind if I dont have kids.

 

You can't let love find you, which is exactly why I jumped on Match.com. You have to be active about it or your chances of finding someone drop drastically. There's also the problem that you could be someone with high standards like I am, in which case, our chance of being truly happy is almost infinitesimal.

[EasyHeart]

If you want to date a lot, then you need to work at it. Internet dating sites are the best thing to ever happen to people looking for short-term hook ups; it's the worst thing to ever happen to people who want long-term relationships.

 

Every woman I've ever loved, I have met through some totally strange coincidence. I think you have to work at dating, but love is something that finds you.

[FeelingLonely98]

I will be turning 25 this summer and I have never been in love and haven't met a decent guy in almost 5 years. I dont even go to bars and clubs to find guys. I havent had a date in over 2 years. I do want to eventually settle down and get married. Im not sure I want kids or not, but I dont mind if I dont have kids.

 

Wow - you are practically a baby. You have PLENTY of time to find your true love.

 

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I agree, mean

 

Yes, mean, but probably the funniest post I've ever seen here on LS.

 

LOL - but I think Bob was more thinking in line

with me vs. being mean --> "princesasabia" is 25 and worried - she is soooo old, wow, she better start becoming the old cat lady NOW.