shaney Posted January 19, 2004 Posted January 19, 2004 . dating a guy for 14 months now. he still not told me that he loves me, .
CaterpillarGirl Posted January 19, 2004 Posted January 19, 2004 Did you tell him you love him (assuming you are in love)? Have you asked him (casually) where your relationship is headed? Good starting points.
clia Posted January 20, 2004 Posted January 20, 2004 End it. If he hasn't said it by now, he doesn't. You are wasting your time.
lostforwords Posted January 20, 2004 Posted January 20, 2004 oh boy dont do something rash and end it........ sit down with him talk to him.... find out where he stands....... you didnt give much information for anyone to be able to come to a conclusion of anything.
dyermaker Posted January 20, 2004 Posted January 20, 2004 Maybe he just doesn't like to say it, actions speak louder than words, does he treat you well?
Reckless Posted January 20, 2004 Posted January 20, 2004 Have you asked him (casually) where your relationship is headed? Have you any idea how most men will react to this? They will start running. They will start running and screaming. They will run and scream and wave their arms about to warn other men of the danger. They will eventually fall over exhausted and wild with fear but as you approach their trembling bodies they will get up and start running again. Love is like water - it always finds a way to be expressed. If it's there. You can't 'talk' someone into saying they love you. Let your own love be felt and see if it flows from him. R. ps. If he beats you or otherwise treats you badly you start running. If you feel loved, you are.
moimeme Posted January 20, 2004 Posted January 20, 2004 Sometimes people learn to be uncommunicative about their feelings. I'm with LFW and CatGirl. I don't think ending it constitutes communicating with a partner, as a rule. Give the man at least a chance to explain!!!! Is he a loving person? Does he treat you well? These things are even more important. They will start running. They will start running and screaming ROTFL! If you can't have an honest conversation with a man after fourteen months then perhaps you should run and scream, indeed. LOL
clia Posted January 20, 2004 Posted January 20, 2004 Please. I've seen this exact situation play out with some of my friends. He never says ILY, we all say "Oh, but actions speak louder than words!" and then he ends up dumping her and moving on to a girl he really loves. It's been FOURTEEN MONTHS, people.
clia Posted January 20, 2004 Posted January 20, 2004 Although, perhaps it would help if you told us how old you are. If you still a teenager, I may have a different response. Tell us more about your relationship.
moimeme Posted January 20, 2004 Posted January 20, 2004 This case is not those cases. We have one line to go on. Some very loving people are very bad at expressing their feelings verbally. Each case needs its own solution, and in every case communication should be part of that.
heatherandtheboyz Posted January 20, 2004 Posted January 20, 2004 I spent almost three years with a man who wouldn't say it. And I wouldn't say it. After I broke up with him he said it. I could have strangled him. Whatever his reason-he is withdrawn and will not make himself vulnerable to you by stating his feelings outright. Love can never be had half way. If it's half love it's no love. He needs to be a man about it or get out of the game. (I'm currently out of the game as I'm sure you can tell) You need to talk to him about this but be prepared to get out and stop wasting your time. I can't believe I spent almost three years with someone so commitment phobic that he can't even SAY THE DAMN WORDS. That's a lot of time to spend on a runner. Don't waste too long...
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