Anybody else feel detached from reality?

[bluz73]

bluz really? Don't do these types of things. He is going to think the 18 year old is more mature than you. Just move on and leave them alone. You are far better than that.

i know i know, He prob wont ever find out the truth anyway, Im planning on moving out of this town I cannot put my life on hold any longer.

I feel like living here near them is holding me back, I cant go out to certain places in fear of seeing them ugh!

I guess i will never know if he has any feelings left for me or know his reaction to such big news and now that i had a nights sleep, i could kick myself for it, lessons learned

[This Hurts]

Yes, when he broke up with me, and the subsequent days following the breakup, I've been feeling like I'm NOT in my body. I'm walking, going through the motions of my daily life, but I feel as if I'm almost observing myself. I think when the mind and emotions go through a traumatic experience, this seems to happen.

 

Yeah, I've learned that recently. I guess it's a bit of a shock stage, as much as I hate to admit that. I hate thinking that I'm still in shock, I just want to move on already. Ugh.

 

The hardest part of breaking up is that life still goes on. Its almost surreal to feel so heartbroken but still expected to continue with every mundane task. Yes - detached from reality is a very real feeling. We're allowed plenty of grieving time when someone dies....but when a relationship dies you're expected to keep on going.

 

Exactly! I don't think others realize the pain you're in. If someone close to you dies, you have all the sympathy in the world. But if you're going through a heartbreak, everybody expects you to act the exact same way. I wish you could attach a chord to people's heads and show them how absolutely terrible this feeling is, so they could understand at least a little. Some days it's hard to even get up, let alone carry on with responsibilities big OR small.

 

I think it is a normal feeling. This is a time of great stress. I for one feel emotionally exhausted atm. I don't think I'm sleeping properly. I feel like the only way to get through atm is just to not think about things. So yeah, i feel like i'm walking around in a daze, i think that is natural.

 

Stress seems to be such a big factor in breakups, it seems. I don't think I'm sleeping well, either. I have yet to wake up feeling okay. I miss the days when I slept like a baby. I'm REALLY hoping my new therapist can help me with this. And like you, distractions is what's helped me the most lately. I can't wait for the day I can think about the relationship without being affected.

 

you know, i have been taking a daily invintory of my emotions morning and night and i actually remember the days i felt this way and the days i dont.

 

you dont have any disorders. ...in fact, you are a normal healthy human being who fell in love and is in the throws of a breakup. its like getting tossed around in the ocean. ..it has no disregard for you or your feelings or your agenda. it just takes you and does with you what it likes. ...when you decide to relax through it, is when you actually weather a chance of survival. thats when you conserve oxygen and are able to notice the bubbles floating up. once you get your bearings, you just go up with the bubbles and take your first real deep breath in a LOOOOOOOOOOONG time! and let me tell you, that breath feels ****ing amazing!!!!!!!!!

 

I remember when I went through this last year when she went through a manic episode and we broke up and didn't talk for like 2 months. I was just starting to see the light, and it felt good. It was starting to be easier to breathe and I was looking forward to the future. Then she came back...

 

I can't wait to feel that way again. A lot of my motivation comes from other people talking about how amazing they feel compared to the first couple of months of the breakup.

 

I can't wait to breathe properly again.

[Odyssey]

...Now that you don't feel it anymore, what are your days like? Might sound like a dumb question, but last year she never gave me time to get over that stage since she eventually came back, so I don't know how one feels once the "dream-like state" subsides.

 

If it doesn't feel like mindless living, are the days filled with more purpose?

It just feels like i have more direction in my life. control. i actually look forward to the start of a brand new day. Begin to give a sh*t. Validation. Looking back, i guess the feeling of numbness was not getting used to my ex being in my life when we used to spend everyday together. Or maybe because she had less 'control' over me during the relationship. Anyway, its not like a switch. its gradual. And eventually, when you noticed that you have more up days than down...that's when you know things are on the right track.

 

Peace.