SadandConfusedWA Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 At 31, my BS detector is set on high. In fact, I see BS even when there is no BS. I can spot a player from a mile away. Until last night. I met this guy who was hot, cultured, smart and somewhat shy. He spent 2 hours talking to me, telling me about his childhood, even showing me pictures of his parents and pets on his mobile phone. He was asking about me, he was also kind of blushing while talking and didn't even appear that confident (wow what an act). He told me how he is lonely and longs to meet the right girl, how he has been single for years etc etc. Nothing in his words or demenour gave him away. I mean NOTHING. When we kissed, it was slow and tender - he didn't feel me up or push for anything. We slow danced when we kissed and it felt natural. If my friends didn't warn me about him, I would have completly fallen for it and been in his bed in 2 weeks time. I have to say, his acting is impressive. Mystery and PUAs have nothing on this guy. Just WOW.
Eeyore79 Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 I was wondering that too - if he was perfect, how do you know he was faking?
Taramere Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 I'd do a bit more digging, sad. Check what your friends mean by "he's a player". If they mean that he's known to pull this act, and that his real personality is quite different then god yes, you'd be mad to have anything more to do with him. If, however, they just mean that he gets laid a lot....well, that could simply be down to him getting pursued a lot. Men who are very hot and also quite shy are a fairly big draw for sexually aggressive women.
SomewhatExperienced Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 Am I missing something? You have just described about how this guy is great and told us nothing of any player behaviours yet. Why are you just assuming that if your friends tell you he's a player that he is? Maybe the guy's for real, maybe he's not, but you should go find out before you just write him off because your friends told you to.
ADF Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 I'm sorry, but your entire description of this man and his behavior just screams PLAYER. I am not sure you missed it.
janie423 Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 At 31, my BS detector is set on high. In fact, I see BS even when there is no BS. I can spot a player from a mile away. Until last night. I met this guy who was hot, cultured, smart and somewhat shy. He spent 2 hours talking to me, telling me about his childhood, even showing me pictures of his parents and pets on his mobile phone. He was asking about me, he was also kind of blushing while talking and didn't even appear that confident (wow what an act). He told me how he is lonely and longs to meet the right girl, how he has been single for years etc etc. Nothing in his words or demenour gave him away. I mean NOTHING. When we kissed, it was slow and tender - he didn't feel me up or push for anything. We slow danced when we kissed and it felt natural. If my friends didn't warn me about him, I would have completly fallen for it and been in his bed in 2 weeks time. I have to say, his acting is impressive. Mystery and PUAs have nothing on this guy. Just WOW. LOL I love this post, I call it a BS Thermostat! Good stuff. So you're saying he circumvented the detectors? He is good. But who knows maybe you are different than the other girls and he really likes you.
SomewhatExperienced Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 I'm amazed how jaded all these women on this forum are. I'm not saying that this guy isn't a player, I'm saying he might be for real. There's this attitude that if the guy is great, he must be a piece of sh*t. If everything went great, why don't you just go out with the guy. You're a big girl right? Can't you take care of yourself?
janie423 Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 Am I missing something? You have just described about how this guy is great and told us nothing of any player behaviours yet. Why are you just assuming that if your friends tell you he's a player that he is? Maybe the guy's for real, maybe he's not, but you should go find out before you just write him off because your friends told you to. have to agree with this, can't always listen to those well-meaning friends. you might store the info as a cautionary note, but give the guy a chance . . .
Don'tWannabeAWannabe Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 At 31, my BS detector is set on high. In fact, I see BS even when there is no BS. I can spot a player from a mile away. Until last night. I met this guy who was hot, cultured, smart and somewhat shy. He spent 2 hours talking to me, telling me about his childhood, even showing me pictures of his parents and pets on his mobile phone. He was asking about me, he was also kind of blushing while talking and didn't even appear that confident (wow what an act). He told me how he is lonely and longs to meet the right girl, how he has been single for years etc etc. Nothing in his words or demenour gave him away. I mean NOTHING. When we kissed, it was slow and tender - he didn't feel me up or push for anything. We slow danced when we kissed and it felt natural. If my friends didn't warn me about him, I would have completly fallen for it and been in his bed in 2 weeks time. I have to say, his acting is impressive. Mystery and PUAs have nothing on this guy. Just WOW. Actually, his showing pictures to you on his phone was actually developed by Mystery. It's called the "Picture Gambit;" it lulls a girl into allowing the guy into her personal space (a precursor to physical intimacy) to show her to pictures.
USMCHokie Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 Actually' date=' his showing pictures to you on his phone was actually developed by Mystery. It's called the "Picture Gambit;" it lulls a girl into allowing the guy into her personal space (a precursor to physical intimacy) to show her to pictures.[/quote'] Hahahah, that's awesome.
threebyfate Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 The best players are the ones who don't even know they are. Denial is the ultimate PUA tactic. "I'm just looking for the right girl". Net result is that they find issues and if they can't find anything, they make it up in their heads. As well, they juggle multiple women as a form of purported self-protection so they don't invest in one person and get their wittle feewings hurt. Too bad they're not honest about the juggling.
Eeyore79 Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 He just sounds like a nice guy to me. They are out there, you know... I've even dated some of them. I'm ok looking, cultured and smart, and also pretty shy. I'm lonely and long to meet the right person. If I was interested in a guy, I'd tend to talk to him at length and show him photos of my dog etc. By your definition, that makes me a player, doesn't it? Because somebody nice can't be genuine
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