xRJ85x Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 So there's been a couple people along with me on here lately that have been having problems with being in love with a close friend, and I also heard on the radio the other day between music the DJs discussing if it's possible or not to be friends with someone of the opposite sex, especially if they're attractive. Its been making me more confused lately because, well frankly, I'm a very attractive, kind and funny person. I've had plenty of women come after me, including friends. So my question is for the ladies on here who've been on the opposite side of this situation, what gives? How do you have good friends who you know are very attractive, physically and personality-wise, and not have any kind of sexual desire, since basically the only major difference between best friends and bf/gf is the sex? And if so, can you help those of us out on here on what kind of things it would take to change it?
boogieboy Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 You cant change it. either youre attracted to them or youre not. Its all about where your heads at. If you look at them and hang with them to try to make something happen, youre not friends. If you can hang with them with the mindset that you arent worried about whether or not something happens, then you might be in the clear.
Author xRJ85x Posted April 19, 2010 Author Posted April 19, 2010 You cant change it. either youre attracted to them or youre not. Its all about where your heads at. If you look at them and hang with them to try to make something happen, youre not friends. If you can hang with them with the mindset that you arent worried about whether or not something happens, then you might be in the clear. Happened exactly with me. I'll admit I was slightly attracted to her, but not nearly enough for me to care to make a move or even care if she talked about other guys she was into. Years passed, I got to know her better, and now it's a whole other level of attraction.
spookie Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 personally, for me there almost always is a level of attraction. i just don't act on it unless i know i want a relationship with the guy, so as not to fcvk up the friendship. i have a lot of guy friends. i am rude and crude and generally fit in better with the boys. i 100% believe it's possible to be friends with the opposite sex. you just have to know your boundaries.
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