cuppa Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 I'll never understand what draws so many women to Joe. I'll never understand why so many men choose the hot girl with no personality either. The ones who end up getting left out in the cold are men and women with good personalities without the hot bodies. Too many people want what is most exciting for them this instant rather than what will truly keep them happy over the years. For a life partner or for one night stand? I think it's very clear that if it's for one night stand, you wil go with hot girl while personality is not really an issur right? In my circle, most beautiful women, they have beautiful hearts/souls too. The ones who don't look beautiful are often times look that way because of stress or in some case, laziness because the truth is, there is no ugly girl, there is only lazy girl. You can be big but you can still look beautiful if you put an effort to it (make up, great clothes, great shoes, zest for life, active lifestyle, etc). I don't know, you can't change the way we are built I think. Think about it, when you go to a shop, are you drawn to a beautiful thing or you are drawn to things that people don't want? For the same amount of money, you will end up buying beautiful furniture, beautiful painting, etc. We are just wired that way, unfortunately.
Rorschach Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Big guys get sex too.....lots of women love bigger men You just don't know that yet.... Well if the chubby chasers want me they better hurry before it's gone
D-Lish Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 When it comes to dating, you just have to learn to trust your radar and cut loose the ones that don't pass the test at the first sign of bad behaviour. We all recognize red flags- but sometimes we ignore them and then lament about having bad luck with men.
tkgirl Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 I was thinking about long term relationships. Generally people have to be very attractive or hot to be able to get one night stands. I'm nowhere near that, though I wouldn't want a one night stand with a woman I just met anyway. People have many different traits, but some people have a much easier time at various things than others. Effort can only go so far with physical appearance. You can't change the shape of a face. one night stands get old after a while... and so do we! what I mean is, as we "mature" looks become less and less important. I'm not saying attraction isn't a big part of what draws two people together, but what keeps them together goes way beyond the physical stuff...
D-Lish Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 It wasn't too long ago that almost EVERYONE had a hot body. Simply because EVERYONE was working hard with manual labor & had to walk everywhere. Think about that. These days most people have to get up off their buts & exercise to be in shape due to the relative inactivity & mass calorie consumption of our daily lives. Getting off topic, but I agree. I don't believe that. How could you not agree with this? Obesity wasn't a problem 20 years ago- but now, it's an epidemic.
Rorschach Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Obesity wasn't a problem 20 years ago- but now, it's an epidemic. While I agree with the general truth of this I would like to point out that obesity in recent years has increased less due to actual obesity and more due to the government changing how obesity was defined. They gave it a wider definition and all of a sudden there was an 'obesity epidemic' when really it's not like it happened that fast.
kiss_andmakeup Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Yes, all men want sex...but not all men want only sex. Your best bet might be widening your dating window...maybe start dating men that are over 30? While it's not a guarantee of commitment or maturity, I'd say there are more men in their 30's who are ready for a real relationship than men in their 20's.
D-Lish Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 While I agree with the general truth of this I would like to point out that obesity in recent years has increased less due to actual obesity and more due to the government changing how obesity was defined. They gave it a wider definition and all of a sudden there was an 'obesity epidemic' when really it's not like it happened that fast. Every bonafide health care professional would disagree with you regarding this. Obesity wasn't a wide-spread problem 20 years ago. It is an epidemic now. But this is off topic, we can start another thread about this so we don't disrupt what the OP is seeking in terms of answers.
pantherj Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 The industrial revolution is the main cause of obesity in the modern world. Prior to the IR, most foods were bland and expensive. Only the wealthy elite were able to purchase flavorful foods. Most people were on the verge of starvation, and ate mostly bland foods. Modern foods are highly flavored and cheap, which has the effect of causing people to eat more than their body needs. Less flavor - you will eat less. More flavor - you will eat more. Cook a steak, but don't season it, and you won't even finish it. Then cook a steak with salt, pepper, and a dash of steak sause. You'll attack it and look around for more.
Mary3 Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 I think the availability of Fast Food is a big reason why some people are so overweight. Its true you can do like me , order a grilled chicken salad in there ( I have not had fast food for 10 weeks now ) or you can Super Size every meal including MCD breakfast and wonder why you are getting heavier. I don't know the statistics of whether people were as obese 20 years ago but I bet not as bad as today. But then again , I think there might be more Gyms available than 20 years ago too...
Rorschach Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 I think the availability of Fast Food is a big reason why some people are so overweight. Its true you can do like me , order a grilled chicken salad in there ( I have not had fast food for 10 weeks now ) or you can Super Size every meal including MCD breakfast and wonder why you are getting heavier. I don't know the statistics of whether people were as obese 20 years ago but I bet not as bad as today. But then again , I think there might be more Gyms available than 20 years ago too... Go watch the movie 'fat head' it'll blow your mind. I believe that the biggest reason for obesity is sedentary lifestyle and lack of exercise, not the food availability.
PhillySpecial Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 Go watch the movie 'fat head' it'll blow your mind. I believe that the biggest reason for obesity is sedentary lifestyle and lack of exercise, not the food availability. Rorschach, do you have a good job? Because a big dude who is a good provider can still get chicks... like that Silent Bob guy... his wife is a young hot blonde. I think its much easier for a big boy than a big girl.
Rorschach Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 Do I have a good job? Yes I have an amazing job that I plan to earn about a million a year doing. Do I currently make good money? Hell no, I make **** money right now. Ahh the pleasures of owning a business.
PhillySpecial Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 Do I have a good job? Yes I have an amazing job that I plan to earn about a million a year doing. Do I currently make good money? Hell no, I make **** money right now. Ahh the pleasures of owning a business. That's it right there. As Tony Montana said "First you get the money, then you get the power, then you get the women." Life is f*cked up isn't it.
Rorschach Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 That may be true, but I plan to be below 220 and sexy by the end of the summer, I don't plan to be making 6 figures in business income until 2013. So Tony Montana can take a flying leap 'first you get the body, then you get the women, then you get the money'
PhillySpecial Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 (edited) I don't understand the guy I was seeing. He asks me to do something this weekend...sends me a txt message on saturday night (and by that time I'd already made other plans) and then ends up talking to me through txt all night. He says he's really into me, thinks I'm sexy, wants to spend time with me etc.....BUT he doesn't want to jump into anything or commit to anyone (because he just got out of a relationship).....so my question is....why didn't he just say that he just wants to use me for sex?? I mean I'm 25 years old....don't men know that we've been around the block enough to recognize this stuff by now? It just seems like all men want is sex....except for my ex. He actually got to know me and made things exclusive before we had sex. And that makes everything SO MUCH worse because I feel like I'll never meet another nice, normal guy. I am so frustrated with dating and using dating to get over my ex. I know it's not healthy to do this.....but I think it happens to the best of us sometimes...and then we realize "hey!..I think I need a new hobby". : ( Yes most guys just want to f*ck. And no it doesn't get any better with age. I just went out with a 46 yr old man who took me out to a nice dinner, at the end of the night he tried to f*ck... first date. I was like "Just because you took me to a nice dinner doesn't mean you're getting any ass." So as a woman we just have to accept the reality and stick to our standards, dating many, many frogs until finally one day we meet our prince... I hope. Wait a minute... where the f*ck is my prince...:lmao: Edited April 23, 2010 by PhillySpecial
Mary3 Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 Yes most guys just want to f*ck. And no it doesn't get any better with age. I just went out with a 46 yr old man who took me out to a nice dinner, at the end of the night he tried to f*ck... first date. I was like "Just because you took me to a nice dinner doesn't mean you're getting any ass." So as a woman we just have to accept the reality and stick to our standards, dating many, many frogs until finally one day we meet our prince... I hope. Wait a minute... where the f*ck is my prince...:lmao: Out of 100 women he might of took to dinner he is hoping for a YES the first date. They never give up trying....
Mary3 Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 Go watch the movie 'fat head' it'll blow your mind. I believe that the biggest reason for obesity is sedentary lifestyle and lack of exercise, not the food availability. Actually you hit the nail right on the head ! Its food you eat , sedentary lifestyle and lack of exersize...
Philetus Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 He says he's really into me, thinks I'm sexy, wants to spend time with me etc.....BUT he doesn't want to jump into anything or commit to anyone (because he just got out of a relationship).....so my question is....why didn't he just say that he just wants to use me for sex?? I mean I'm 25 years old....don't men know that we've been around the block enough to recognize this stuff by now? It just seems like all men want is sex....except for my ex. He actually got to know me and made things exclusive before we had sex. And that makes everything SO MUCH worse because I feel like I'll never meet another nice, normal guy. I am so frustrated with dating and using dating to get over my ex. I know it's not healthy to do this.....but I think it happens to the best of us sometimes...and then we realize "hey!..I think I need a new hobby". : ( Yes, guys want sex but it's not necessarily all we want. For me, it comes down to the woman. With some women, I just want to have sex with them. With those women, it's usually a reciprocal thing - they just want to have sex with me, too. I'm old enough to have this pretty much established before shagging and can avoid your kind of trouble. Usually. With others, I have things in common with them or find them interesting or something. In other words, we 'click' or connect. There's more than a physical attraction and a good time being naked together. My advice would be, if you want to sleep with a guy who will fulfill more of your needs then just the sexual ones, spend a bit of time seeing if there's a connection first. If you spend time together prior to sleeping together and there's more then sexual chemistry, odds are better you'll have more than a FWB relationship. It sounds like this guy is having fun with you but doesn't want to be honest - that he's using you for sex - because it could ruin it. Maybe he thinks you WANT a relationship and if he nixes that idea, his Saturday night 'sure thing' is gone. If I were you, I'd be the aggressor and ask him. Do you just want this to be about sex? If he says, 'yes'. Then you have a decision to make. Take control, be in charge.
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