JohnJ Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 Long story short, I have been going out with my girlfriend for 51/2 years, am 22 now and shes 20, and have been in love with her since she was 13. We had a great relationship. 2 years ago, she broke up w me just because and proceeded to get into a relationship with some guy, but technically did not cheat. She was sorry for what happened and i eventually took her back because I really love her. About 2 months ago i kissed a girl and she slept in my bed. The girl proceeded to tell her about this and sent her text messages between me and this girl. She broke up with me obviously and called me a few times within the next few weeks, and i apologized and made it known i wanted 2 get back with her. i got the vibe that we would fix it, and then she just dissapeared for about a month. she called me and tells me to forget what she says that she loves me but what i did was unforgivable. I told her if this was it to meet me at my house that I would cook her dinner. she storms in mad and screams at me for what happened, and we eventually eat, and we both cry, and she sits on top of me and we almost kiss . throughtout this time she is texting her girl friends sister mom and this guy shes chilling with making plans for later, i think she just did this to make me jealous. she tells me if i ever need her to call her, and i tell her i wont be her charity case, and she says im not. I kiss her on the cheack and she leaves. WHAT DO I DO. i want her back and i know somewhere she does 2 she just cant "be that girl" according to her. HELP!
The Paper Knight Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 You are young and should have many more relationship journeys with other people. Let this one go (at least for awhile) as time heals and at present there is a big wound in this relationship. Cheating, once exposed, causes the biggest rift in any relationship, so don't go trying to fix it! Sit back and get busy living and I bet you one day this door will shift again. If she says she wants a break then agree with her as you recognize you have caused her much pain. Most of us want the one that got away back, but this is a fleeting feeling, based mostly on ego. Start to focus on the most important love of all, yourself.
Denny Crane Posted April 21, 2010 Posted April 21, 2010 thats tough man. i just broke up with my gf of 9 months about a week in a half ago and its hard bro. she came over last night to pick up her stuff from my house. i was calm and said i wanted to be friends still and invited her in to hang out for a bit like friends and for old times. she thought about it but ultimately didnt but she considered it which kinda gives me false hope which your girl could be possibly giving to you. shes going to another schools prom with this guy in a couple weeks and im afraid to lose her just like you but if she wants a break you gotta give it to them. if you don't they won't realize how much they love you and miss you. bro its hard to give her space and to risk her being with other guys but you have to let her if you ever wanna get her back. she has to realize that all those other guys out there are losers and that she really had something good with you. ive been down this road before, it sucks but you have to try to move on in the process. talk to other chicks and see a couple. it will make you feel loads better i promise. try to forget about her. dont get mad, jealous, desperate, or needy towards her. you still hurt but dont show it. if she forgives you and still loves you, she'll come back. good luck, hang in there it gets better.
Samari Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 I think you should just move on. There are other fish in the sea. Just make sure that next time you don't do anything that might get you in trouble.
samsungxoxo Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Start a new relationship and go from then. Another suggestion is being single or have casual relationships because you can play the fields and have no worries about being attach to no one. Sometimes relationships give you nothing but problems.
IronMaiden Posted April 25, 2010 Posted April 25, 2010 Given your ages and how young you were when you started dating, I think the current outcome was inevitable at some point anyway. Both of you were obviously chomping at the bit wanting to see what else was out there. End this as friends, leave it open ended. If it is meant to be, it will come around again later. I can think of no one other than one couple I know who are together since HS, and their relationship at this point is far from passionate after 25 plus years.
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